"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SamePendo

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I agree with MOM.

However. Did you tell him that you liked her? Did you get to an agreement in which he was to hit on all women but her? That's the kind of agreement you get in between friends. If you did, and he still banged her it's lack of respect. Lack of confidence from your part from the begging since she was and is nothing to you except a pretty tail, and you there should be no problem for you if your friend goes hunting.

This apparently isn't about him getting some tail, but of your lack of confidence.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Who cares? You're a grown a$$ man. You don't need to whine over something pety like this. She's not the last hot girl on the planet. You'll likely meet one within the next six months that'll make you forget her entirely, then you'll look back on this whole thing and realize how stupid it was.
 
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He told me he wasn't going to hook up with her cuz i told him i liked her. Then he turns around and hooks up with her. That pissed me off. But I still want to get with this girl. What can I do from this point on? Should I tell her I am pissed at her because she ****ed my friend or should I just say I don't give a ****?
 

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Just out of interest I dont suppose you have stopped to ask yourself whether your friend liked her too? What if he liked her as much as you liked her? Who would you say, according to the way you have been looking at this, should have had her then? Surely if this was the case it could have been either of you. She was fair game, and he won!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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PRMoon

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LaDanian Tomlinson said:
He told me he wasn't going to hook up with her cuz i told him i liked her. Then he turns around and hooks up with her. That pissed me off. But I still want to get with this girl. What can I do from this point on? Should I tell her I am pissed at her because she ****ed my friend or should I just say I don't give a ****?
I can't believe i'm reading this. You're asking us how to go after an uninvolved girl who has had some form of physical contact with a friend? How long have you been on this site? Do you do any reading here? If you want to game her that bad then you have to step up. There are tons of threads with information on how to proceed in situations like this and you know it. This entire thread screams inexperienced newbie.
 

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LaDanian Tomlinson said:
He told me he wasn't going to hook up with her cuz i told him i liked her. Then he turns around and hooks up with her. That pissed me off.
Then you have all the right to be upset. For whatever reason, lack of confidence, etc, he told you he wouldn't and he still did, and that's fvcked up. That's lack of respect towards you and you have all the right to be pissed off.

You've got to understand what the guys here are trying to say. This chick was nothing to you. Nothing. Either way, once you told him to hold up on her, you should have made your move, not before he made a move, but before another guy made a move.
 

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It's wrong that your friends deceived you but you need to get over this girl. Move onto another girl and once you get in this situation in the future be a lot more aggressive.
 

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DonDan said:
ermm... Didnt we make a virgin forumn especially for killacam?!?! wats he doin here! givin advice! neva had a gf in his life LMAO..... im sendin out a warning!! BEWARE KILLCAM!
Guess it's todays token message from my number one fan :up: Not the first bit of rubbish to come out of your mouth, and it sure as hell won't be the last, right?

Wasn't it not long ago you were giving your girl 30 phone calls a day? I assume you haven't stopped.
 

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It's not your friend's fault, quit whining like a b!tch because you didn't have his balls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If there's one cookie on a public platter of cookies, then everyone has a right to get at that cookie first. If I really wanted that cookie and you came whining to me that you want me to let you have that cookie I'd lie to you and take the cookie when you turn around too. Afterall, i want that cookie as much as you.

Then I'd laugh at you as I wiped the crumbs off my shirt.
 

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Your mate was a ****head in this situation. If he agrees to not hook up with her then he shouldn't!! What happened to friends being more important than women? If he liked her as well, he should have said something like
"i don't know man, I kinda like her as well"

Incidentally I hooked up with a girl at the weekend that a friend of mine likes. However, he never said anything to me about it beforehand. If he had, I wouldn't have hooked up with her. Friends are more important than girls or have some people forgotten that.
 

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LaDanian Tomlinson said:
So last night my friend had a little party theres 2 girls to 10 guys. We all are getting drunk and having a good time then my best friend takes this chick that i like up to his room. So i got pretty pissed and want to talk to him. He didn't let me talk to him until like 15 minutes later. So i tell him why the **** he's hooking up with this chick and he says he's not and that they're just talking. He tells me that he was talking good about me so i could get with her. And I tell him "you're not lieing to me right?" and he's like "no". So i think it's all good and they come down and chill downstairs. But later they go back up to the room for like 20 minutes and i barge in their and i hear her putting her clothes back on. And i was just like "you're a ****ing liar" and left.

So today she texts me "sorry about last night". and im like "its alright you both were pretty drunk". then shes like "well i feel really bad still". and im like "well at least you apologized". and thats about it. So right now my ****ing best friend lied straight to my face and hooks up with this chick he knows i like. ****ing pissed man. what else should i do????
What should you do?

Dude…you remind me of these guys that used to go out with me and say, “Hey…I like that chick,” every time he saw somebody hot. And then hope that everybody else would not attempt to approach her, because he “liked her”. My solution to that kind of stuff is that when my friends and I went to a place…and met a group of chicks…whoever saw her first…to give it a try. If he couldn’t, then somebody else should try…and so on. Or to allow for the chicks to show interest.

Your situation? You wanted a woman that was attracted to your friend. You both met them there…you might as well allowed him to hook up with her. After all…she was not interested on you and you were never involved with her.
 
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dont be too pissed, he obviously didn't last very long with her. 15 minutes???
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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