"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Best Foreign Language to Learn if you want to work for the US Government

Best Foreign Language to learn

  • Arabic

    Votes: 4 16.7%
  • Bengali

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Chinese (Mandarin)

    Votes: 6 25.0%
  • Farsi

    Votes: 2 8.3%
  • French

    Votes: 2 8.3%
  • German

    Votes: 2 8.3%
  • Hindi

    Votes: 1 4.2%
  • Portuguese

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Russian

    Votes: 3 12.5%
  • Spanish

    Votes: 4 16.7%

  • Total voters
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Belmar2009

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What do you think is the best foreign language to learn if you want to work for the US Government (either directly or as a contractor).

I.E. State Department, language specialist with FBI; CIA; Dept. of Homeland Security,
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Evzone

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As said before, Arabic, Mandarin or Farsi if you want to work in intelligence, but I'd also add Pashto to the list. If you want to do diplomatic work instead of intelligence, fluency in really anything is a leg up, but that probably is going to have a big effect on where they want to place you, so study something that interests you.
 

thedude4242

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there are a lot more spanish speaking countries. who wants to deal with the arabs.
 

Guoy Darko

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Is this a quiz with a right answer, or do you want to work for the US government?

If it's the first, I have no clue.

If it's the second: call them. It will probably depend on what department you want to work for. If you're interested in the arabic world and terrorism related topics it will be arabic. If you want to work via the US government with European relations, I can tell you first hand French is the most important language. If you're living in Europe and you want to work for the European union or something related, you have to speak French.

good luck.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thedoc

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It definitely depends on the department but go with something unique like others have said, Arabic, Farsi, or Chinese. What I mean by unique is English, Spanish, French, even Russian and German are all related. If for some special reason you would need to, you could learn any of those relatively quick. But say if you learned Spanish and all of a sudden you needed to know Chinese, you would have a much bigger problem learning it.
 

Trader

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Belmar2009 said:
What do you think is the best foreign language to learn if you want to work for the US Government (either directly or as a contractor).

I.E. State Department, language specialist with FBI; CIA; Dept. of Homeland Security,
My friend got into the CIA because he knows Turkish - Arabic would help too. That is for counter-terrorism.

If you are working for the government for international trade, then Mandarin would be the choice.
 

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The government does not care if you are fluent in Spanish, French or any other language traditionally taught in American schools. People fluent in those languages are a dime a dozen. The governent is desperate for people who can speak HARD TO LEARN, NOT TRADITIONALLY TAUGHT languages. Also, since we have spent the last 20 something years dealing with the Middle East, obviously a language from that area would be a good one to learn.
 

Evzone

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slaog said:
What language do they speak in Israel?
Hebrew and Arabic are the official languages of Israel (20% of Israeli citizens are Arab), but English is widespread, and also surprisingly Russian is widely spoken in Israel as well since there were lots of Jewish immigrants from the Soviet Union.

San Jose California said:
Definitely Arabic because nobody knows Arabic.
Well many more do now like many soldiers returning from Iraq, but it's still going to be valuable not just from a government perspective but international trade. Now if you really want to go out on a limb, learn Farsi or Pashto--you'll get a huge leg up for counter-terrorism or intelligence work.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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