Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
+1,just plain jogging + swimming can really help as well.Throttle said:proper attention to diet will do more than all the cardio in the world.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
:rock:Throttle said:proper attention to diet will do more than all the cardio in the world.
there's a lot of research supporting various forms of interval training as more effective. interval training on an elliptical machine helped me when i was trying to strip a lot of bf% at once, but i also was neglecting leg workouts at the time.Solarium said:work better, or that interval training you talked about. I mean... it's all about how much calories you actually spent right?
the standard settings on most ellipticals can be kicked up in terms of resistance to increase the stress on your cardiovascular systems. moving your arms -- or using a machine that has moving handholds -- will involve more of your body. personally, i find the moving handholds annoying & i can never quite adjust to the motion, esp. as exhaustion builds. but let go of the handrails and let 'em swing.I'm trying to switch between ellipticals and treadmills. I noticed that ellipticals is more taxing on your muscles themselves, almost feeling as though you just weight trained your legs, while treadmills, especially running at high speeds, is more taxing on your overall body and your breath rate/blood flow.
such numbers are nearly meaningless. you can rarely tell whether or not they're including (or trying to estimate) your bmr (baseline metabolic rate). more intense exercise burns calories for a much longer period after you stop exercising, but also slams your recovery systems, which can affect gains from lifting, if that's a part of your program. such numbers can't (or shouldn't try to) factor in either consideration.I'm not sure which one is better overall to lose fat, but I can work out about 520 calories in 30 minutes on the treadmill while only about 430 calories on the elliptical.
depends on the machine, the settings, and your stride. you can certainly make either or both work much harder by intentionally involving them in the stride.Also, the ellipticals doesn't really train your ankles or your calves as well, but supposedly it should in theory use more of your calories with the same amount of effort (according to articles).
riding my bike, walking, or jogging lightly on a dirt path or a very slightly squishy oval track (in good condition). an elliptical in a very desperate pinch (say, 48 inches of snow on the ground; everything covered in ice; or temps above 100degF and/or ozone alert, and i'm stuck exercising midday), out of continuing deference to my knees. otherwise, anything outdoors. also swimming, tennis, racquetball, basketball......Which one you guys prefer?
fair enough. but he hadn't (and hasn't) yet mentioned diet.Kev07 said:with a proper diet, you can jog 10-20 minutes a day, 4-6 days a week and get results in a month or 2
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Charm&Style said:what made me lose weight fast was
either early in the morning before i have ate breakfast or a couple hours after my carb cutoff i would go jog (nothing extreme) just a simple jog to get my body warmed up (say 20-30 mins) come home Jump Rope till i can jump no more and then hit the pool and swim a couple laps.
You wouldn't believe how much weight (yes i had a proper diet) i lost within a single month.
The best part is that during this month, i mostly burned off fat and didn't stop losing because i had lost mostly water weight...if you catch my drift.
anyways theres a couple of geniuses on this board who know what they're talking about when it comes to fitness and health.
Don't forget the 15 minute and 4 minute mile.KillaPetehog said:Jumping rope for 10 minutes at a moderate pace is the equivalent to running one mile in 12 minutes
Ten minutes of jumping rope is roughly the equivalent of running an eight-minute mile.
Not only that, but it's really easy. And I've even seen some people.... get this..... GO BACKWARDS! :crazy:agula_jonson said:Hi friend I think the Elliptical is one of the best since you are constantly working your whole body with weights while running/sliding at the same time. You can also work on a flat ground or on random hills to go up a notch.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Swimming, long distance (1-2 miles) bad for your joints and causes problems in the future, Cycling and sprinting. Playing sports like basketball, rugby, football and MMA will also get you in shape.wahoyaho said:so i have some love handles i'm trying to get rid off, what's the best cardio exercise (without going to a gym or having to buy expensive equipments) that'll help me burn off the excess fat?
It will be different for everyone depending on age, goals, activity levels, weight, etc. In general it will mean high protein, moderate fat and carbs timed properly. No junk foods and not too many combinations of fats and carbs.CRDJit said:Can somebody post what this "proper diet" consists of? Thx!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.