best approach for this situation...

[jamez1]

first off, whats up everybody im new to the boards.

k, about a week ago i went to a lounge with two buddies. when we arrived we ran into my friends cute female cousin who was with her bf of about a month. at one point i was alone with her and she asked me for my #, so i gave it to her.

the following week was her bday so my buddies and i went to the club where her, her boyfriend and her friends were celebratin.
throughout the night she would come over and chat with me. so we had a real good vibe between us.

then today she calls me, and starts to tell me her bf is a **** and controlling. also he walked out on her at the club and etc. so we chatted for a bit. after i hung up i found out the pool party i was supposed to go to was cancelled. so i call her back and we decide to go to the gym together.(i found out we go to the same gym) so we meet there and do a stomache workout together. we were flirting with eachother, kino and all that stuff.

when we left i asked her if she wanted to do somethin tonight. she said sure.

so my questions are

1.how should i approach this situation? should i talk constant trash bout the bf, tell her to move on. tell her shes too good for him.

2.where should i take her? im thinking maybe a simple coffe shop to chat, or a lounge to get close and personal perhaps?

ive never been "the other man" so im definately lost on this one, any help would be appreciated.

 

[HeartlessBtch]

I think everyone pretty much knows that i do not agree with taking women from other men by now. Welcome to the boards buddy. here's my suggestion, DROP IT. Listen, if the girl really thought that her bf is an a$$ then she would have dumped his a$$ long time ago (Iknow I would if a guy walked out on me at the club). She obviously likes the attetion that you are giving here *HINT* shes lacking that from her bf so she has to rely on others to get it. She might be an AW and it seems like you guys have been hanging out a lot. Think about this, would you still want to be with your gf if you knew that as soon as you turned around she asked another guy for his number?I'm not saying it happens in all the cases but when i girl plans on two timing with a guy what makes you think she wont do it with you...now, if you just wanna score, then go ahead and shoot for it. But, keep your feelings outta this stiky mess...


*edit: don't quote the whole first post in your reply, thanks

 

[DJDamage]

Tell her to dump her boyfriend and then you two can hook up. Why do you need all the sneaking around like a pvssy and try to mack with this chick?? Why do you have to risk you limbs/life over a stupid hoe?? (That is how most guys get jumped or killed, dispute over a girl).

Even if you are willing to go with this and have her cheat on her boyfriend, just remember she is more then capable to do the same thing to you, it ain't about being the bigger man who is taking care of business because her boyfriend can't. Its about respect. If she can't respect him and dump him before she sees another guy, she won't respect you either because she is allowed to behave this way.

Don't be someone's back up, you deserve better.

 

[jamez1]

well thanks for the comments guys.
however i should make it clear, i just plan on laying this girl, and im curious to find out what the best approach to this should be.
im leaning towards: leading her on thinking i can do what the current bf cant.

 

[HeartlessBtch]

i think she just wants to get laid also. Listen, if she really thought that he was a jerk she would have already dumped her. That's how girls are they need to make a guy feel sorry for them andlet them know that things are already going bad so that they see that halfway opened door and go for it. If you just wanna get laid you don't have to pull off much, if she wants it too then why pretend you can do a better job than her bf? if you dont wants her as a gf! Just hint it out or be straight up, keep doing what you are doing until you get the score

 

[snintel]

The typical "My BF is a jerk, let me pour my emotions and rants out on you, the caring guy". You're in the friends zone from waht I can gather. Get outo fit now, and don't let her talk about him with you.

 

[HeartlessBtch]

Originally posted by snintel
The typical "My BF is a jerk, let me pour my emotions and rants out on you, the caring guy". You're in the friends zone from waht I can gather. Get outo fit now, and don't let her talk about him with you.

nope....not necessarily. in many ocassions a girl wants to let a guy that she is interested in that things with her current bf are not going good and that she is planning on a. breaking up with him 2. two timing 3. eventually leaving him for someone else

 

[ketostix]

1.how should i approach this situation? should i talk constant trash bout the bf, tell her to move on. tell her shes too good for him.

My advice don't mention the bf and if she does dont indulge her just switch topics.

2.where should i take her? im thinking maybe a simple coffe shop to chat, or a lounge to get close and personal perhaps?

sounds good.

 

[Morphiex]

dont mention the bf at all just show her a great ass time ... and shell start to wonder if she can be this happy with someone else then she should dump her boyfriend.... Make light kino moves and such and i think shell grdually some around....

 

[jamez1]

thanks for the feed back guys.

btw we went out last night to a lounge, i played it cool, showed her a good time, and didnt mention the bf. after some drinks and kino she said "lets go somewhere more private" the night ended in success.