"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bench Press
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
Here's a routine that will get your numbers up on bench in a few weeks.
3 times a week (mon-weds-friday or so) go in and do a set of 10 warmups on flat bench, then 3 sets of 3 at as high a weight as you can go.
Then do 3 sets of incline dumbbell, and 3 sets of cable crossovers. Do that 3 times a week and your chest will get stronger way fast, but everything else will lag behind.
However, (judging by the reading I've been doing) if increasing strength is your goal, try increasing the weight slightly every workout session. If you just increase it by a few lbs per week, you should make some progress.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
line_in_the_sand
Don Juan
He's right! I would like to add a few lines though. If you really want to increase your bench, you also need to work the supporting muscle groups, and legs too, since training them release MUCH more growth hormone into your system.
What part of your benchpress movement are you stuck on?
If you get stuck on the bottom, your back needs work. Do wide-grip pulldowns and rowing movements, or deadlifts!
If you get stuck in the middle part of the movement, I'd say you have a front deltoid-problem, this can be solved with dumbbell og barbell shoulder presses.
If get stuck near the top, it's a tricep problem. Do reverse grip bench presses in the smith machine, or skull crushers.
My point of all this is the fact that chest is just one factor in the bench press. If you strenghten all the areas that I've said, and keep trying to increase your bench with, say 5 lbs, a week, you WILL get there, you just need to focus.
By the way, I also recommend a minimum of 1.5 grams of protein pr pound of bodyweight every day. Yes, I'm one of the Iron Addict/Doggcrapp-brainwashed people, but hey, it works!
Hope this is of some help.