"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bench Press!!!

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ok i thouight i had benchpress figured out until i started plateauing...I have heard SO MUCH CONTRADICTION in benchpress advice lately, im completely confused. First off my goal for BP is to obviously make it go up, and to have nice pecs...IVe been stuck around the same weight for about 2 months...Hear are the contradictions ive been told

FAST VS SLOW : some people say lower the weight slow for the tear, and go up slow for tear...some people say go down slow and explode up for power ( which is hard with heave weight btw)...
HEAVY WEIGHT LOW REPS VS LIGHT WEIGHT MANY REPS: people have said to up your benchpress, lower the weight and pump and tons of reps... some people say do 1-2 reps on a heavy weight, and u will make gains...
WEIGHT VS # OF SET: Some people said go 12,10,8,6 reps, and upping the weight as you get less reps...some people said stick on to 4 X 8 reps of the same weight...
# OF SETS: some people say do warmup sets, some people say they make you tired, some people say, 3,4, or even 5 sets....

with all this swirling in my head, and my recent plateauing, my workout today seemed hardly productive. I just want to know the best way to do organize your sets for optimal gains!!!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FAST VS SLOW : some people say lower the weight slow for the tear, and go up slow for tear...some people say go down slow and explode up for power ( which is hard with heave weight btw)...

Powerlifters lift fast,bodybuilders lift slow(most of the time). Do you want strength(powerlifting) or looks(bodybuilding)?

The rest,the sets,reps is all up you. Do what you feel comfortable doing,try each style switching every months and see which gives you the most results/size/whatever you are looking for. Good luck!
 

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Yo mang, when you start going heavy, you need to just exert lots of power when you press up, it may not go fast, but you need to have the power to press it up as fast as you can, dont worry it will be very slow. Lowering slowly and powering up is the best way to go overall.
 

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Keep varying your rep ranges for best results. Try switching to flies for something different and to help push through the plateau.
 

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blinkwatt said:
FAST VS SLOW : some people say lower the weight slow for the tear, and go up slow for tear...some people say go down slow and explode up for power ( which is hard with heave weight btw)...

Powerlifters lift fast,bodybuilders lift slow(most of the time). Do you want strength(powerlifting) or looks(bodybuilding)?

The rest,the sets,reps is all up you. Do what you feel comfortable doing,try each style switching every months and see which gives you the most results/size/whatever you are looking for. Good luck!
yes. this is true.

and my current quest is to try getting them both at the same time. (bulk + str)

is that even possible? or should i spend a month bulking. then strength?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First get your form together, search for a post by me about correct bench press form.

If your bench isnt up there then strength training is what you need to be doing to increase your main lifts. Bodybuilding style training is for when your big lifts are reasonable but until then strength training is what you should focus on.

Go to ironaddicts.com and read on the Westsidebarbell section and get started on a WSB routine.
 

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thanks effort..my strength is fine i think, im benching more than my own body weight, and i weigh 185...alot more than guys bigger than me, i just want to know how to set up my sets, for the best gains..
 

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To build strength and muscle(w/ a little fat) just eat and eat,keeping the fat under 60 grams a day. Load up on rice/bread whenever you get a chancce. I gained ALOT of strength and size when I did that. Now I just want to build for looks and I only take in 20 grams of fat a day,200+ grams of protein. By the way I have only been lifting for a year and I weight 148 and do sets(8,6,6,5 reps) benching of 185,195,202.5 & 207.5,so I think I know what I'm talking about. Good luck!
 

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Try dumbells for 4 weeks, rotate exercises with the barbell etc.

Also, are you eating enough? Don't forget the importance of caloric surplus. The more muscle you put on, the more you are required to eat to keep the gains coming.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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musclyjerk said:
Try dumbells for 4 weeks, rotate exercises with the barbell etc.
Good tip! I hit a wall barbell benching and couldn't increase the amount I was lifting for a month. I switched to dumbbells for a month and went back to the barbell and I could do more,it kinda put me over the hump.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Espi said:
Very good advice...you won't lift as much weight on DB's...which is good because you learn to stabilize more effectively and thus will up your barbell BP...I'll add that you should peform incline and decline bench press, too (DB)...these will strengthen and hypertrophy the entire pec region...and that can lead to a higher barbell BP.

However, I wouldn't be concerned about upping the bench weight. Focus instead on form...most guys lower and raise the weight too quickly. Slow the reps down...focus on squeezing your pecs at the top of the movement.

In my mind, incline DB press is what builds a nice chest. THAT should be the money exercise.
This is very good advice. Form is so important and I see tons of people in my gym focussed entirely on pushing up huge amounts of weight and forgetting that form is what develops nice muscles!
 

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Flyer said:
yes. this is true.

and my current quest is to try getting them both at the same time. (bulk + str)

is that even possible? or should i spend a month bulking. then strength?

Look at strongmen and powerlifters. Do you think they waste time with the little "pretty boy" stuff? Doubt it. Those are prime examples of strength and size. Training with reps 4-8 and packin on more weight each week will give you some serious size/strength.


Ignore the fact that most of them are fat. They don't need to have a 6 pack to be effective. Unless you're Marius Pudzianowski
 

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René Minkwitz is a pretty ripped guy too. But not like Marius wow
 

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Charm said:
This is very good advice. Form is so important and I see tons of people in my gym focussed entirely on pushing up huge amounts of weight and forgetting that form is what develops nice muscles!

Form is good,don't get me wrong,but it's not everything. I know x-bodybuilders who even tell me to push hard so that my last rep or two on my last set aren't perfect,and when my last two are perfect then I know it's time to put on more weight. Just something to consider.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If it's easy, it's not work..
 

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Flyer said:
yes. this is true.

and my current quest is to try getting them both at the same time. (bulk + str)

is that even possible? or should i spend a month bulking. then strength?
it's impossible to bulk without gaining strength also. and it's impossible to just gain strength without also gaining some mass. not matter wat ur tryin to get, you'll get the other as well. Just lift heavy with proper form and slow reps and u wll gain.
 

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Raikojo17 said:
it's impossible to bulk without gaining strength also. and it's impossible to just gain strength without also gaining some mass. not matter wat ur tryin to get, you'll get the other as well. Just lift heavy with proper form and slow reps and u wll gain.
consider it done.
 
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