"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bench press question??

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warboss Alex

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I wasn't completely joking about not doing the flat bench press, I'm not a great fan of it, and not just because I think it's an ego exercise more than anything else ("ooh, ooh, how much can you bench?").

For a powerlifter it's essential but for a bodybuilder there are better options, the reason being that (for me and a great many other people I know) the shoulders and triceps will give out before the chest will. Such is not the case with inclines and declines (bar or dumbbells), flat dumbbell press (no exercise built my chest like this one), chest dips or even chest press machines (hammer strength etc). I can do a balls-out db press set and feel it in my pecs for days afterwards, but I don't get the same feeling from the flat barbell bench.

If you want to do flat bench, do it the DC way and keep the reps higher than you would for a normal chest exercise to make sure your chest gets enough work and for safety reasons. You CAN make progress with the flat bench press but when your weights start getting up there the chances of injury are great (hence the higher reps), but have you ever heard of someone tearing a pec from an incline press?

That's my opinion and I don't think my chest development has been negatively affected in any way by sticking to db and incline/decline presses, and I've never had a chest injury either (touch wood!).
 

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There have been WAY too many people injured doing the flat bench press from pec tears to rotator cuff injuries. There are many other better ways to work the pecs. Flat or incline DB pressing is a good option.
 

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This is a no brainer.

DB put the weight almost directly in control of the chest. Because of the framing in the BB press, the rotator cuff takes great stress. The front shoulder and triceps receive the greatest force. The range of motion is also limited. All of these factors take away the fact that any pressing move regarding the chest should be almost exclusively centered on the chest THEN the supporting muscles.

If it works out differently, what's the purpose of doing it? If it stresses your shoulders and triceps why bother? Normally they fail out before you get to max out the BB press. And it doesn't put your chest in the greatest position to exert it's force. That, and you can't go heavy @ a gym if you don't have a partner for fear of crushing your face.



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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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