"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bench Press or Incline Press

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OK I have a question. Which is a more effective exercise, bench press or incline bench press? See I'm doing a fairly abbreviated routine and the only chest exercise currently is bench press. The problem is, like in most gyms, there are always a bunch of people who came together that crowd around the flat bench and each do like 10 sets. Its not uncommon in my gym for a flat bench to be occupied by one group of people or even one person for 30 or more minutes. However, the incline bench is almost always vacant. To me, it's not worth it to do flat bench if incline is just as effective, which I think it is. I don't have time to sit and wait in line for the flat bench, and yes I've seen lines of 3 or 4 people form while waiting on the bench on a few occasions. So do others of you think that inclines are a good chest builder?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your gym should have benches where people work with dumbells.
I am sure they are more available, so try dumbell bench press.
Note, that usually those dumbell benches are adjustable, so you can do flat dumbell bench press and incline dumbell press with one bench without waiting.
 

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incline's fine, go ahead and do that.

Most fixed incline benches are at too steep an angle to be a chest exercise, should be around ~20 degrees, not 45 degrees.

Flat bench is actually seen by a lot of bigger guys as bad, because injuries (like pec tears) are common.
 

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Originally posted by semag

Most fixed incline benches are at too steep an angle to be a chest exercise, should be around ~20 degrees, not 45 degrees.

wuh oh

*adjusts his incline bench down a few notches*
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

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The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think incline bench has been largely ignored.

And most who do it use pre set inclines set too high.

For the next month or so, I am focusing mainly on incline DB benching rather than flat benching for the reason of building my upper chest, which I feel is lacking.
 

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Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
So you shouldn't do incline presses at more than 20degrees, even if you're trying to target your upper pecs?
First off, there are no 'upper pecs' but just one muscle on each side of your chest (with the exception of another pec muscle that connects from your ribs to your pec delt tie in) to get your chest to be more full up top you need to make the whole muscle grow.

Secondly, incline is an awesome mass builder. Keep it like people have said, around 20 degrees, and you should be set.
 

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Originally posted by Criminal Mind
If you're looking for size, go with the dumbell bench presses. It is A LOT better.
I'll have to agree with this. I use to exclusively do benching with DB and developed great chest size.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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