"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bench Press Form - How Deep?

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Hi all

Just a quick one - how far down do you go on your flat barbell bench press? I always assumed it was as far down as it goes, but a good friend of mine who generally knows his stuff pretty well say you should only go so your arm and chest are in line with each other. Which is the correct way?

Cheers
Adam
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What?
Touch the chest.
 

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It depends.

A) You down down slowly and when you reach a vertical point you stop while still vertical hold then push back up. Now thats a nice rep.

B) You go down and hit your chest (not hard) and then proceed to go back up.

As long as you have good form and do i nice full repetition it wont matter.

Both have great effect.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have long arms and making the bar touch my chest puts way to much unnecessary stress on my shoulders.

I stop about an inch above my chest for superior results and zero shoulder stress
 

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Drum&Bass said:
I have long arms and making the bar touch my chest puts way to much unnecessary stress on my shoulders.

I stop about an inch above my chest for superior results and zero shoulder stress
adjust your technique to shorten the stroke and protect the shoulders, then. that's what most guys will long arms do (including me).
 

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For reps I usually lower the bar slowly and touch my chest. Once I get into really heavy weight (something I can't do 8-10 reps with) I usually won't let my elbows go any less than 90 degrees.

I'm trying to avoid injuries too, though, as I've had my share of them lately.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Touching your chest without bouncing is my universal indicator of a good rep. Otherwise there is some ambiguity. Sure, upper arm and chest inline sounds good but how do you know under weight when a rep is a rep? Guess?

If you want to avoid shoulder stress, tuck your elbows some. Many people complain but don't realize that it's not always the ROM but the positioning of the arms as to how much strain your shoulders take. Tuck them from 90 degrees compared to your body to around 45 and it will but much more comfortable. I train to compete so my elbows are almost at 0 degrees at the bottom and I have never reaggrivated my shoulder.

While I'm at it, put some arch in your back, spread your feet, and for the lov of whatever god you pray to, do NOT flail or move your torso if it gets hard. Having a solid base is where your pressing strength comes from. This means not moving your feet mid rep or squirming your torso.
 
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