"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok, as my situation goes, I have transformed like no other in last 1 year, and today I find myself on other extreme but very little experience to understand all these, so guys let me know what I should do..

This is one week endeavours that started for MBA case competition with 32 countries coming in to compete, and loads of volunteers that I joined, and from that I created very strong identity by talking to lots of girls and getting contacts from all of them, yet I have lots of scenarios that needs more clarification..

I am not very comfortable under club scene, yet I don't mind dancing, and making fool of myself, So is it good idea to go after party girl? If I have very little experience in this aspect?

I look like a player, I act like a player in groups, yet when I isolate I become more conscious about what I do, is that normal?

Is it possible to have multiple oneities, How do I deal with it? I got so many girls that I'm interested in, yet I don't want to be infatuated and then burned down big time..

Is it good to make friends with girls, I thought I could do it, yet jealousy is taking over as she gets hit on by other guys, and I can't make out if she's playing me or I'm just getting over excited due to lack of experience, even if the girl is not that interesting to me..

Having Hard time dealing with giving girls a hint that I'm interested, Should I tell her that I like her after initial comfort building is completed and strong connection is made or is that suicide?

I am Donjuan so I always work to improve what I do, I've taken and learned more thing in last 1 year then most of my life in terms of getting results, yet I am still learnning so I am bit unsure of my actions is that normal?

How fast should I escalate? I get to comfort zone very fast, Should I ask girl out on a spot or should I call later on, should I even mention that I'll call?

Is it ok that I'm going crazy right now, as I've got loads of girls that I can take out yet I am newbie at this so don't want to ruin it, and I end up extra cautious and careful about everything I do..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bible_Belt

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Having Hard time dealing with giving girls a hint that I'm interested, Should I tell her that I like her after initial comfort building is completed and strong connection is made or is that suicide?

suicide. You "tell" her you like her by kissing her.

And just keep it fun. Do things that are fun for you regardless of the women involved.
 

The Deacon

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You're overanalyzing a little bit here. The Book of Pook has some good advice when it says to just trust your gut. I can see why you're cautious and careful, but it'll do you so much good to stop worrying what precise time to make a move. It's just too much to think about. The more you think in the field, the more likely you are to mess up.

Besides, when you're an amateur, you think that you should just flat out tell them "I like you." Don't do that. It's just tacky. I like letting them know with outrageously flirtacious gestures. If the girl's comfortable with you, take her out where the activity is quite physical (like the dancing you've mentioned) and just up the ante when flirting. Isolate, keep flirting, keep teasing, blah blah, kiss close. It should be that simple. The only complications you're facing are artificial ones that you created for yourself.
 
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