paraguayandj
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I was just wondering how many of you believe in God
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Interesting, I have observed that most people are atheists because of fear. At what point at your life you became an atheist?Tomatoes said:Im pure atheist.....There is no god.
bbestar said:Interesting, I have observed that most people are atheists because of fear. At what point at your life you became an atheist?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bbestar said:Interesting, I have observed that most people are atheists because of fear. At what point at your life you became an atheist?
As long as nobody's attacking each other's beliefs but just stating their own, it should be fine.I think this thread will get closed soon.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Exactly the same way.Tomatoes said:Im pure atheist.....There is no god. Everything in the universe happens within the laws of science....yet we dont fully understand those laws yet.
God is as real as elfs pixies and flying dragons that breath fire.
There is no heaven or hell.....When we die are body shuts down and our mind and consciece ceases to operate again.....not that we would notice because we are dead.
I laugh in the face of all relgious people. I can respect their beliefs aslong as they dont impose thier religious belifs and ideals on me (Which every relgious person does).
Tomatoes said:Im pure atheist.....There is no god. Everything in the universe happens within the laws of science....yet we dont fully understand those laws yet.
God is as real as elfs pixies and flying dragons that breath fire.
There is no heaven or hell.....When we die are body shuts down and our mind and consciece ceases to operate again.....not that we would notice because we are dead.
I laugh in the face of all relgious people. I can respect their beliefs aslong as they dont impose thier religious belifs and ideals on me (Which every relgious person does).
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Lots of people believe morals are sociological, and that they developed in order to keep society together.Bible_Belt said:OK, Atheists, if religion is all bunk, please explain your ideas of right and wrong. What happens when two peoples' ideas of morality conflict? Moral relativism falls apart quickly. There has to be some sort of shared morality for any society to function. But what is the Atheist rule book? How is right and wrong defined?
There is no right and wrong. Morality is simply a tool humans developed to keep societies stable.Bible_Belt said:OK, Atheists, if religion is all bunk, please explain your ideas of right and wrong.
Athiests have a rule book called "use your frigging common sense". You could say common sense is our bible.But what is the Atheist rule book? How is right and wrong defined?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.