Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Being Yourself?

OhThatGuy

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Hey, longtime reader here, I've never posted but there is always great advice here. Anyway, to the point: I have no problem being myself around people... but then I realize that I am pretty damn awkward and goofy 90% of the time. I was just wondering what basic guidelines you guys follow to keep your cool, but still be fun and real around other people. Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jglide123

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Many dating experts, Neil Strauss in particular, amended the dating adage "Just be yourself" to "Just be your BEST self," meaning working on yourself, improving yourself in different areas.

So in your case, work on remaining calm around girls and build your confidence (there are MANY different ways to build up confidence. Try actually googling the question for tips),. Also, associate with guys who are "naturals," guys who are good with and around women....
 

yuppaz

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There are lots of different aspects of everyone, maybe start looking at being the best YOU in different ways. Besides the funny, light hearted you, what best you...um are you when something needs to get done, when you are reaching for a goal, when you are turned on by a woman etc. etc. etc. You aren't one dimentional, there are many facets of who you are. Explore them
 
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