"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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being well-mannered

beastmaster79

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alright. this is simple **** but it can be easy to forget.

being polite and courteous displays class and intelligence.

you will always have a reputation. everyones got one. gossip is fundamental to human nature and people will always talk about you behind your back. its up to you to determine if your name is mentioned in a positve or negative light. HAVE A GOOD REPUTATION!

everytime you interact with somone you are either creating a new ally or a new enemy. the more friends you have the better life is plain and simple. everything is easier and more enjoyable. the effect you have on individuals is magnified through word of mouth. if you are genuinely kind, engaging and polite, each person you interact with will become a new fan. whenever your name is brought up in a conversation they will make a remark like "he's a cool guy", or he's "really down to earth". if you are really cool, people will talk about you all the time. being polite should be genuine becuase its very enjoyable to be an arbiter of good vibes. don't fake it! learn to enjoy people. disingenuine people are repulsive. also think of meeting new people as fishing for friends. the chances of discovering someone you click with is worth the effort of being kind to everyone.

now remember, you don't have time to be everyone's friend. some people deserve more respect than others. learn to differentiate between friends and aquaintances. in some instances all it takes is a smile and a little eye contact to convey your kindness and respect.

be extremely selective with whom you spend the bulk of your time. friends will either lift you up or bring you down. try to associate with those who live a lifestyle you desire. the bulk of your time should be spent with people who are at or above your level in life. the best friends are those who continously learn from and challenge eachother. these synergistic relationships are invaluable to your happiness and success. also, the more time you spend with somone the more likely you will be seen with that person. everyone knows the importance of being seen with the right people.

being well-mannered is a subtle art but an extremely rewarding one, if mastered. if you leave a good impression with your manner, people will associate you with good feelings thus creating attraction. the next time they see you, they will smile and boost your mood.

be careful becuase being overly friendly to the wrong people(wierdos, sketchballs) will make them think you want to be friends. spend too much time with these types and their reputation will become yours. guilty by association. learn to send a signal of disinterent without being too disrespectful.

using disinterest can also create attraction. being able to dislay your good manners then politely withdraw your attention is extremely powerful.


REMEMBER. the game never ends. learn to relax and enjoy it
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FlyBoyFoy

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Good Advice. Duelly noted.
 
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