Being upfront and getting more results

[tryst type]

I've begun trying out a new idea I've been pondering around.

Simply being upfront and honest about how it's going to be, what's to happen, the type of girls I allow into my life.

This all really started taking shape from flaky behavior/uncertainty about meeting up on the girl's end. After several run-around excuses to my initial request to get together, I simply started saying: "Ok well here's the thing, I have a rule... I only ever give a girl one chance to spend some time with me, and after that it's up to her to do the inviting. I don't like clutter or people who don't enhance my life in the least bit, and this is a great filter for me that's always worked at keeping my mental state at peace. So maybe we'll hang out, maybe we won't. That's up to you. Take care"

I couldn't believe how my success started to double after this. It's like you're the biggest challenge she has ever met and suddenly turns her fickle behavior around.

Now you will get the occasional girl who doesn't ever contact you again, but it's not a hit to your ego because you basically already turned her down in a masculine mature honest way. She wouldn't respect your reality so who cares that she's gone.

I've even started being this upfront in the very beginning
of an interaction saying how I live and expect things to be or which direction it's headed. They respond surprisingly well with admiration since most guys try going under the radar.

Try it with any belief you might have in a masculine, unshakable, this is my reality way and notice how effective it can be and cuts right through the bs of dating.

 

[x86]

This is the exact method I use and it also pays off well in a LTR situation.

Being totally upfront = awesome.

 

[facadegeniality]

seems to me like you are suggesting to her that she does the work. or you want some reciprocity....i do not know how that will really work out. But if it works for you, good for you!

 

[Kenny Powers]

^^ yes but only after she has flaked and proved unworthy of his time due to lack of respect on her end. Why should you make an effort with a girl who blew you off!?

I think this is a good idea, it probably won't work as much the op suggests but it does save you time chasing girls who aren't interested/worth it.

kenny powers approved

 

[TheMale]

good idea !

but ... what are you doin if the girl is a little bit shy to call you ??

you know like in movies 'what should i do call him/not call him ?'
'or maybe should i go to his work and said just paassing by ?'

 

[SashaPUA]

Dude, you're right on the money. This isn't really being up front it's just setting barriers. And it's a great barrier. Sometimes I say to girls while talking to them "I'm not an ******* - so i'll call you when I say. I will call you TOMORROW. But just once. If you don't get back to me, its over!"

Haven't done it much though, but since reading your post i'm going to do that **** more

yea some shy girls may not get in touch. But if they are interested... they might. It's worth loosing them though because you will have your ****ING SANITY diong this. nothing pisses you off more than chasin flakey girls. it's just not worth it, in my opinion

great post.

 

[RSanders219]

Awesome post. Definitely going to start employing this more often.

 

[The Experience]

This sounds like a great move. I think I'll try something like, 'when i call you, you either pick up or call me back.'

 

[Majestyc]

Great post, will definitely give this a try.

 

[ModeOne4Ever]

Gotta be Upfront and Straightforward with the women....