being upfront about spinning plates?

[pete101]

im confused, it's preached you should spin plates so you dont get oneitis and also if things go sour between you and your girl you'll have girls to fall back on like she has guys she can hook up with.

however, isn't spinning plates technically cheating unless you're upfront about it at the beginning?

also a lot of women wouldn't want to mess with you cos they have some ego that states they should be the only 1 you are seeing so wouldn't see you anymore cos you're dating other girls rather than just her. so you end up losing a lot of girls at the beginning who are potentially good girls but won't accept the fact that you spin plates. i need clarity on this.

would u want a girl who accepts that you are spinning plates when you start dating? wouldnt she think that gives her license to do the exact same thing?

 

[scrouds]

Girls aren't logical
Girls aren't logical
Girls aren't logical

We on the same page? I guess not. They run on emotion. Tap into that and you can get them to do many things. Its a wake up call, but you can tell a woman you can have other girls but she can't have other guys if you use emotion right.

Some people will say to just lie outright. That I feel has nothing to do with the girl, but you need to decide, as a man, if that's within your moral code or not.

Personally, I don't like to lie or mislead, so I will lay down the law and say things are not exclusive.

Emotion is greater then ego. If you become the prize, then they would rather share it then go without 9.5/10

 

[COD]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=161142

 

[Gangster Of Love]

im confused, it's preached you should spin plates so you dont get oneitis and also if things go sour between you and your girl you'll have girls to fall back on like she has guys she can hook up with.

however, isn't spinning plates technically cheating unless you're upfront about it at the beginning?

also a lot of women wouldn't want to mess with you cos they have some ego that states they should be the only 1 you are seeing so wouldn't see you anymore cos you're dating other girls rather than just her. so you end up losing a lot of girls at the beginning who are potentially good girls but won't accept the fact that you spin plates. i need clarity on this.

would u want a girl who accepts that you are spinning plates when you start dating? wouldnt she think that gives her license to do the exact same thing?

When you start dating, you are doing just that, dating. It is not a comitted long term relationship. Why the need to pretty much "ask for permission" to date if you are not in a monogamous LTR?

That is why if you are just after sex, you must strike early and bed ASAP when just casually dating. Once she thinks you two are exclusive, she will make more demands and you won't be able to come out and openly say you are dating others.

Yes, a lot of them will not want to sleep with you until you are just dating them, that is moving more towards the comitted LTR. Spinning Plates is done when you are in a postition to casually date and not when you have told or implied to someone you are exclusive.

When you get pretty good at conveying what you want and don't want, and don't have this fear of loosing a woman, she will be more ok with you spinning plates when not in a LTR.

 

[drak_ool]

Usually I'll be upfront about NOT wanting a gf. From then on, if the girl still tags along (which they always do, if for no other reason than to change my mind...) she can't pretend she didn't know what she was getting herself into.

I usually try to avoid the discussion of what I do when I'm not around her. When she brings it up, I'll just avoid the argument all together by throwing in some jokes. However at the same time, I make it pretty clear to her that we are not exclusive.

There comes a point where 1) she ll either get sick of it and leave you, unless you become exclusive with her
2) she likes you more and more and she ll pretty much take anything from you, so this won't even be an issue