Being unpredictable and women. Discuss

[KingWizard]

At first, i have no idea where to put this thread, so I decided to give it a shot at DJ discussion, peace!
To clarify before I start. Someone wise once said there are no normal people, everyone is a bit strange in his mind.
So, that's it. I am suffering from Bipolar Disorder 2 and some other things connected to it. U know, I have emotional rollercoaster, from depression to mania - basically it goes like :One month IM DA MAN OF THE YEAR and later I feel like I am being throwed at water without the skill to swim. Add overall derealization, and it sums me up perfectly
But I am not writing this to hear: keep it up, here is a cookie. That's a no no.
To the point, without going around the topic, the struggle made me better, harder and stronger (daft punk ref ;p). I am more open, straight forward, and grown a pair of balls. I used to make my struggle my best point, or at least one of it. Derealization makes me more confident, f.e. I see a girl somewhere, and there is nothing to HOLD ME FROM HITTING AT HER. Also when I am manic, my mind works at the highest possible gear. At some crucial moments, there was no problem to me, to bang a girls after 3 days of knowing each other.
But the topic is that, I am being mostly unpredictable, which seems to boost my flirt with girls. They are like : "ow, why are you so upped
and spazed?" My answer is often something confident, maybe ****y mixed with teasing said girl. They always give me the same look saying " wow, you are really complex, I want to crack you open and see what is going on inside of you". When my mood is going down, they are even more interested in my person, especially when I am having 3 different episodes in one week for example. It is like, they are confornted with 2 or even more different mindsets in one person. it goes like: seductive - ****y - confident - funny - smart - calm - sad - reflective - philosophical in the matter of a few days. Also thanks to my problems, I am far more mature and experienced compared to other high schoolers. I really think that being a walking suprise makes me more attractive to women. Or it s just the struggle that makes me better. "Without struggle, there is no progress " as said F.Douglas. I hope you can clarify things for me as you are WAY MORE EXPERIENCED.
Peace
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Again, sorry if it is hard to read, I am still learning how to format text properly :3

Lao Tzu — 'New Beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.'

 

[Poon King]

Its not even that complex.

Its well known in the psychology community that uncertainty is a key ingredient in creating attachment.

People need a certain level of stress and fear to appreciate something. Anything offered FREE or too easily is seen as worthless. Which is why beta losers get friend zoned and added to a woman's sea of orbiters on the daily. Anything easy is low in value. Betas offer their time, attention, affection and money too easily.

Why do we work hard at our job? Because we fear if we don't.. we will get FIRED. Any girl you're dating is like an employee. If a job pays their employees even when they slack off, have bad attitudes, don't show up to work and show no respect.. what incentive does the employee have to change? There is no fear... so there is no respect OR incentive to "work".

This is why 99% of women treat men they are dating like dirt. She can be the biggest c*nt on earth and the beta will respond by being NICER. Imagine being late to work every day and having an attitude with your boss and they give you a raise for it. What will you do? You'll be an even bigger d!ck.

 

[adam225]

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[Navigator]

What medications were you prescribed?
Were you diagnosed bipolar 2 with paranoia?

 

[KingWizard]

Yea, it is with paranoia and obsessive ocmpulsive disorder. I had some trouble with my meds. Acually, I know its self destructive, but I don't take any meds. When it hits me , I workout, listen to music and I write my own songs. You know, - "art for the sake of art". Also I tried to get the most positive thing of my episodes. Navigator, do u also have bipolar 2?

 

[Greasy Pig]

Poon king fvcking nailed it. I'm using it in discussions with unplugged saps in future.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Poon king fvcking nailed it. I'm using it in discussions with unplugged saps in future.

I very recently found myself in one of these, and I am now far more convinced that arguing with these obstinate white knights is about as pointless as arguing with people about their respective political or religious beliefs. "Misogynist", "biased", "making men out to be saints" - a complete disaster, just like... well, just like arguing with women. What do you know...

 

[LMFAO]

Its not even that complex.

Its well known in the psychology community that uncertainty is a key ingredient in creating attachment.

People need a certain level of stress and fear to appreciate something. Anything offered FREE or too easily is seen as worthless. Which is why beta losers get friend zoned and added to a woman's sea of orbiters on the daily. Anything easy is low in value. Betas offer their time, attention, affection and money too easily.

Why do we work hard at our job? Because we fear if we don't.. we will get FIRED. Any girl you're dating is like an employee. If a job pays their employees even when they slack off, have bad attitudes, don't show up to work and show no respect.. what incentive does the employee have to change? There is no fear... so there is no respect OR incentive to "work".

This is why 99% of women treat men they are dating like dirt. She can be the biggest c*nt on earth and the beta will respond by being NICER. Imagine being late to work every day and having an attitude with your boss and they give you a raise for it. What will you do? You'll be an even bigger d!ck.

This is absolutely true.

You have to reward women for good behaviour and punish them for bad behaviour. You'd see women ignoring betas and the beta would just text the girl again "Hey how are you?" or ask them to again to go on a date for the 10th time to some restaurant when they haven't even fvcked yet, instead of what you one would be doing if they weren't so fvcking pathetic and respond with a "...?" or "wtf" or some amusing text that you have to consult the laser surgeon to remove her name from your bum tattoo and change it to another girls to her bad behaviour in true blasé fashion.

Women can see right through the fvcking pathetic neediness. Even as alphas it can still happen giving a woman a little too much attention, but you don't give a fvck a quarter as much. I'm still on the learning curve but I usually tend to have about 10 phone numbers of potential dates/bangs and sometime send several of them the same message and see who responds best. I went out with a French girl last night and she didn't kiss me, I laughed at her and said she kisses like a grandma and walked away with a smile on my face. It probably threw her off of how little I cared, she sent me a text an hour later thanking me for the date, which I responded to with one word.

It is fine to be persistent and inconsistent, but you have to offer women VALUE. Value offering texts are very important sometimes to just send out of no where instead of just continuously asking her for another date, and I use a few templates of these from RSD.

 

[Solomon]

If you take adderall because you're ADD I highly recommend not drinking before going out.....

 

[zekko]

I have a friend who is Bipolar. He's always done well at attracting women, women will even go out of their way to hit on him. When he is manic, especially in the early stages, he is very high energy and personable. I imagine that competing with him for a woman would be like trying to compete with a guy who has had five cups of coffee (without the jitters).

However, as you might expect, as a result of his disease he has had a pretty rocky history as far as his relationships go.

His other problem is that his depressive side will take over, and he will get attached to his last girlfriend, and think that she was the only girl for him, and that he can never be happy without her. And he'll just wallow in that for months instead of moving on to the next one.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I have a friend who is Bipolar. He's always done well at attracting women, women will even go out of their way to hit on him. When he is manic, especially in the early stages, he is very high energy and personable. I imagine that competing with him for a woman would be like trying to compete with a guy who has had five cups of coffee (without the jitters).

However, as you might expect, as a result of his disease he has had a pretty rocky history as far as his relationships go.

His other problem is that his depressive side will take over, and he will get attached to his last girlfriend, and think that she was the only girl for him, and that he can never be happy without her. And he'll just wallow in that for months instead of moving on to the next one.

Funny how ASPDs can sometimes provide men with a strange advantage over more well adjusted types (i.e. women's attraction to men with dark triad traits), but as you pointed out, just as their strengths border on superpowers, their weaknesses can be downright crippling.

 

[KingWizard]

What Zekko said, is also true about me ;p "Anything offered FREE or too easily is seen as worthless." is going to be one of my commandments.
THANKS POON KING !