Being the rebound guy sucks

[jjihun]

So I was dating a girl 5 years older than me for a while and things seemed to be great for a while after one point, then she became more distant. It was my mistake for not noticing all the red flags.
1. She just broke up with her ex boyfriend 3 months ago.
2. She would seldom talk about her ex boyfriend.
3. She contacted her boyfriend to ask some "questions"
4. She "lied" about going to work. (We agreed to meet that day but only after a time because she had to work later. However, she actually went elsewhere after our date). From this point on she started to act more distant towards me.
5. Agreed to do something together in a place but she flaked me at last minute (this is a place where his ex frequents)
It amazed me that I have not realized this until now that I have lost most of my interest on her. I did feel that something was not right at the moment but I chose to ignore it. However, now I can see how everything starts to make sense. This sucks, I feel like I was used to heal her pain and thrown away after she comes back with her ex.

 

[wifehunter]

So I was dating a girl 5 years older than me for a while and things seemed to be great for a while after one point, then she became more distant. It was my mistake for not noticing all the red flags.
1. She just broke up with her ex boyfriend 3 months ago.
2. She would seldom talk about her ex boyfriend.
3. She contacted her boyfriend to ask some "questions"
4. She "lied" about going to work. (We agreed to meet that day but only after a time because she had to work later. However, she actually went elsewhere after our date). From this point on she started to act more distant towards me.
5. Agreed to do something together in a place but she flaked me at last minute (this is a place where his ex frequents)
It amazed me that I have not realized this until now that I have lost most of my interest on her. I did feel that something was not right at the moment but I chose to ignore it. However, now I can see how everything starts to make sense. This sucks, I feel like I was used to heal her pain and thrown away after she comes back with her ex.

Been there....the bleeding will only stop, after you walk.

 

[bigneil]

All girls pull away at some point. This is why you have multiple women in your life so you can seamlessly redirect your attention toward women willing to reciprocate on that given day.

 

[Jifto]

So I was dating a girl 5 years older than me for a while and things seemed to be great for a while after one point, then she became more distant. It was my mistake for not noticing all the red flags.
1. She just broke up with her ex boyfriend 3 months ago.
2. She would seldom talk about her ex boyfriend.
3. She contacted her boyfriend to ask some "questions"
4. She "lied" about going to work. (We agreed to meet that day but only after a time because she had to work later. However, she actually went elsewhere after our date). From this point on she started to act more distant towards me.
5. Agreed to do something together in a place but she flaked me at last minute (this is a place where his ex frequents)
It amazed me that I have not realized this until now that I have lost most of my interest on her. I did feel that something was not right at the moment but I chose to ignore it. However, now I can see how everything starts to make sense. This sucks, I feel like I was used to heal her pain and thrown away after she comes back with her ex.

I mean... you know what #4 means....right? Walk buddy. It's the DJ way.

 

[Billtx49]

Yep, with her being only 3 months out, the sucess rate is Very low if a woman is that close to a break. At least 6-12 months of her being single swings the odds closer to you.

 

[nismo-4]

Second place is first loser. You never were in first.

You're always in a race with woman's exes, and you need to start coming in first place.

This is why you never get emotionally attached.

Case closed. Work on yourself.

 

[Krueg]

Even though you may have made a mistake by ignoring the red flags; its not necessarily your fault she was leading you on.. I been there before and your right, it does suck. You just have to ignore her completely if you want to fully move on. Or else she will keep reaching out time to time, fvcking with your head! If you didnt have much feelings for her, you could keep her around as a "back-up" or "fvck buddy" while your seeing/dating other girls...

ultimately, its best to keep moving forward, without her!! (She had her chance...)

Plus, you now gain more knowledge and experience from this - to know better when looking for the right one.