Being the Initiator?

[Compact]

Hey whats up people

so something ive found puzzling is how everyone likes to be greeted by another person, for example when going to a new school or new job, we want others to approach us and be friendly, but we don't want to OURSELFS be the initiator of interaction (introducing yourself)

my problem is that i want to be friendly and have alot of friends, but i feel that what i have to say might not be interesting to them and they might reject me, paradox because if i dont say anything, i get rejected pretty much

also part of me thinks that saying, " hey, im _____! Whats up"

especially with girls, i feel like they won't like me and so i dont attempt to initiate convo's,

i dont know if i should ask "hey what ur name" or "hi im ___"

irrational fear i know

can anyone give me tips on being the initiators and being the one who starts relationships and makes it easy for others?

thanks

 

[Army Strong]

To tell you guys the truth, I started off with the confidence thing by being friendly with ugly/fat girls. Then you go for hotter girls and you realize they aren't much of a stretch.

 

[Scars]

Walking in and having people greet you will raise your value and does give you a really good presence. How you achieve this is by being THAT GUY. The guy that people genuinely get excited to see. You always have something to bring to the table. By every definition you are "the life of the party". Not only that but you have to have strong connects with everybody. Be close to all your guy friends. Be a genuine and good friend. Have your homies back. Try not to burn your bridges. Even with girls. You don't have to be the "nice guy". Just be the "fun guy". Also, make sure to acknowledge every person you see. Or try to. A simple "hi" goes a long way. People will remember your face and sometimes even use that as an excuse to introduce themselves to you if they ever see you again. You pretty much have to be a social butterfly, and know everybody. The change won't happen over night. Don't do it for epic introductions or validation from people though. Change for yourself. Strive to be the best person you can be. As you progress, these little gems will follow you as well.

 

[Ease]

You need something magical. Its a secret weapon that transforms you from creep to cool guy.

'Whats up' or 'wassup'.

This is the universal safe greeting for almost every situation. If you rush in and say your name, you lose. If you ask for theirs, you lose.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

You need something magical. Its a secret weapon that transforms you from creep to cool guy.

'Whats up' or 'wassup'.

This is the universal safe greeting for almost every situation. If you rush in and say your name, you lose. If you ask for theirs, you lose.

Co-signed.

 

[initiatorhater06]

talk to old women also, after all, they were once cute and pretty

 

[playergamehater]

agree with him