"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Being straightforward with her?

FigureITout

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Hey everyone,

A couple nights ago I met this amazing girl who pretty much satisfies everything I look for in a girlfriend. She was cute, funny, down to earth, etc. We connected really well and danced for most of the night at some party, but halfway through the night my friend told me she's had a boyfriend for over a year (he's a year younger and goes to the same university as me and her).

I know you guys will say I should probably move on, and I understand that, but say I wanted to try to win her over and get her as my girlfriend. What would be the first steps toward doing this? Btw she's a good girl, and I know for a fact she would NEVER consider cheating.

Thanks!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tortendieb

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On a hunch I'd say be straightforward. As a result, probably get a straightforward rejection.

Then leave her alone for some time & forget about her.

I had a "good girl" that "never would cheat" too, and what happened: she said "uh oh erm you know I can't I have a boyfriend", then I said it's okay, and left her alone. What happened? After 2 months she broke up with her boyfriend and came back to me. Anyway our short relationship was kind of awkward after that and we broke up soon after. And she returned to her ex.

Trying to take a girl away from her BF will result in frustration of one kind or another. No go for a trust-based relationship.
 

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Straightforward tends to work for me. If you are straightforward then the worse that happens is she says "No" and you move on.
 

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I think what I'm going to do is just keep being myself and being a little flirty around her. I wanna demonstrate to her that I would be way better of a bf than the one she has now. Obviously I'll have to avoid getting thrown into the friend zone, but I think I can do that by just using kino on her.

Any thoughts?
 

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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