"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Unsure

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All I can say is uh,,,, I ask her to hang out saturday and she said sure, She called me Friday we talk and I told her I was gonna call her around 6 ish 7 ish bam when 7 rolled around called nobody there

around 8 I decide oh well I'm gonna go with my brother to grab something to eat we walk around downtown but we got lost and out of the blue bam she with a group 3 girls and 1 guy, all doll up clubing pretty sure, I didnt notice them we were walking down the street and I wasnt paying attention until she came and grab me we were going different directions I was on the phone talking to another girl.

Me: ( uh wtf shocked who this girl grabbing me)
Her: what you dont know me anymore?
Me: Uh hey.....

Both group walks away....

I known this girl for couple months but talk a little bit not much and didnt hang out until recently.

I was kind of slow I didnt mean to ignore her but I really didnt notice her I was on the phone and we were lost I was joking with my brother saying we gonna look like tourist.

I'm not gonna make a big deal out of it, I just dont want her to think that I was mad, so yeah.... I have my own kingdom to worrie about and atm she not part of it. I really do like this girl I just cant help but there still some AFC in me to make mountain out of mole hills.

so now what? should I text her and say hey didnt mean to ignore u?, but it kind of bother me little bit.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AlexTheGreat

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Unsure said:
All I can say is uh,,,, I ask her to hang out saturday and she said sure, She called me Friday we talk and I told her I was gonna call her around 6 ish 7 ish bam when 7 rolled around called nobody there

around 8 I decide oh well I'm gonna go with my brother to grab something to eat we walk around downtown but we got lost and out of the blue bam she with a group 3 girls and 1 guy, all doll up clubing pretty sure, I didnt notice them we were walking down the street and I wasnt paying attention until she came and grab me we were going different directions I was on the phone talking to another girl.

Me: ( uh wtf shocked who this girl grabbing me)
Her: what you dont know me anymore?
Me: Uh hey.....

Both group walks away....

I known this girl for couple months but talk a little bit not much and didnt hang out until recently.

I was kind of slow I didnt mean to ignore her but I really didnt notice her I was on the phone and we were lost I was joking with my brother saying we gonna look like tourist.

I'm not gonna make a big deal out of it, I just dont want her to think that I was mad, so yeah.... I have my own kingdom to worrie about and atm she not part of it. I really do like this girl I just cant help but there still some AFC in me to make mountain out of mole hills.

so now what? should I text her and say hey didnt mean to ignore u?, but it kind of bother me little bit.

nah man don't text her. Call her and make a joke out of it. "I didn't know you were a public kidnapper, I got scared!"

Anything, but don't excuse yourself. Just tell her later if she asks that you were busy and she surprised you.
 
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