Being spontaneous

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I'm not a very spontaneous guy by nature. I think everything through, I don't just do things at random, I rarely start conversations with people I don't know (but I'm really good at saying hi now, finally). But I know that I need to become spontaneous, and I will become spontaneous, because it's holding me back right now.

Is there anything you guys can suggest to make me become that guy who decides something and just does it? Or even the person who decides to do something new?

Specifically with girls this is hard. I can carry conversations no problem now, with the eye contact and all that... but with the ones I don't know too well, I rarely start a conversation or suggest we do something just for the sake of doing it.

 

[TheRenegadesOfFunk]

Don't overthink. Force yourself to do things differently. Avoid routines. Avoid getting nervous/ anxious over something is by not caring about the outcome.
Even simple things such as...Changing how much attention you give a girl, Different style of clothing, Changes in scenary, Learn how to play an instrument or something totally new to you...whatever. Just avoid being predictable.

 

[Q-Pid]

Spontinuity is from thinking ******ds. Acknowledging the world around you and acting on impulse. The problem you have is that you think inwards.

The best way to think ******ds is to start to take notice of the world around you. How things feel, how they smell, what they look like. Notice these things and work with them.

The benefit spontanius people have is that they use the world around them. People who aren't spontaneus only have themselves to talk about