"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Being scarce - Articles, Info needed??

Crissco

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Not sure how many of you know, but i do well on online dating, i get about 10 numbers a day, but i also lose about 2-4 numbers a day because of me being "pushy" "demanding"..Etc..Towards the hang out. I met up with girls almost every night, but its not always good enough. I have to go through 10 numbers to get a hang out or two.

I work from home so my time is flexible, that is probably the cause of this. But..That also goes back to if a chick had a chance to meet her favorite celebrity, one time only, she will do it..Because it is rare. Im trying to build this part of me up.To be scarce, rare..For self improvement aspect also.

Any good tips or articles i can read on this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Online dating is the flakiest and hardest to grasp out of them all. Nothing of what you've said surprises me.

10 numbers a day seems a little high for online dating, are you just sending out mass messages to anyone who's a 5+?
 

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Stop online dating. The drama you are indulging in is counterproductive. When you have no women and no longer feel scarcity will you start cultivating abundance.
 

Crissco

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Night-hawk said:
Stop online dating. The drama you are indulging in is counterproductive. When you have no women and no longer feel scarcity will you start cultivating abundance.
I couldn't agree more. Its because i do so well online it basically an addiction. I helped my friend out at a fair Sat and Sun just for fun and extra money. Really couldnt talk to people because i was working, but i managed to number close two pretty damn hot chicks. Texted one earlier, around 9:30pm..Hasnt responded - Gave up the number very quickly and tone of voice was very positive, but we all know actions over words. We shall see.

But..Overall..Even number closing one girl each day, was more fun, had a better interaction, then when i number close 10 a day online.

I tried to sign onto one of my dating sites, seems i got my profile removed. Haha..Whoops..i think it was this 35 y/o chick i called out because she just wouldnt give her number up.... - Hence, this is one of the reasons i posted this thread.

Through texts/online or any type of typing, my brain is free and i just keep typing away, especially when something bothers me, or i try to plan a meet up they are "busy" but i get no other day..It gets to me, because i feel like i wasted my time and my ego gets in the way because of my past consistent successes. Its the fact i can have and had 13 girls over in a week, two in a night just from sitting in front of my computer...Thats what keeps me going back.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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