Being rude to women?

[brazilian_user]

Hi.

Women usually say I am rude. I was in the military, I am a lawyer and I am a brown belt Jiu Jitsu fighter.
I speak truths and it hurts people, because they don't want to know truths.

And we have this thing in Brazil, where you can't really say things real straight. It is a cultural thing.

So, how do I deal that with women?

These are things I usually say:
"People can't get too fat. Fatness is not good for health".
"You can't spend more than you have. You are spending too much and it will be a trouble for you".
"I can't spend time on stupid things. Stop bothering me with silly things".

I need help. If I am not assertive, women will abuse.

Thanks for the help.

 

[halfguard]

I don't think what you are saying is bad at all. But I am also on the blunt side. In some instances the bluntness put the girl on her heels. Meaning she was surprised (impressed) I was so honest up front. So it may end up working for you.
Maybe it is just your delivery or tone?

I am a black belt in BJJ - been training for 13 years. Got my black a few months ago. If someone doesn't know your culture Brazilians can come across rude or "harsh" when they are really big teddy bears on the inside.

Keep speaking your truth. Porrah!

 

[Poonani Maker]

^^ I'm in boxing shape, no ju-jitsu yet (really can't afford to get mangled cause my job requires full health but I may try it 2020). I know a Brazilian guy (Very overweight) who just went to the Caribbean and found him a Native girl there Thin and hot! He said it's "a dream come true" and he married her 2 years ago I'm like wtf I didn't know you were married all this time - I've known him for almost 10 years. He's like "you gotta go there and get you one" but to stay away from the native areas as they don't like Whites. He told me the names of places to go, I told him that I may just do that very thing and go over there next year. She is making him lose weight though (and in my mind I said, "Oh no" but to him I said, "Great!") after I told him how much thinner he looked. She's put him on a diet. He said it was so hard cause he used to come home from work and stuff his face.

He said the bars over there in the Caribbean are like porn shops.