Hey there people, I need some help once more in deciphering a situation.
Once again, I have a situation with Jamie (Here's the old situation.) This time around, things are slightly more complicated.
She's basically one of my best friends on campus, has been even after all the drama we've both been in. And I hadn't seen her in over 3 months (Silly summer vacation and busy schedules) so we were both really excited to be back at college cause we both really missed eachother (despite the fact that she called me atleast once a night, if not more)
It all started out fine until on the second day of classes, she asked me to hold her. She had been having a really rough time with her Ex bothering her and her BF living so far away.(He's in Rhode Island, We're in New Jersey) so it seemed like an innocent request. Soon, this became a nightly thing. We'd hang out, talk like friends do, but I would hold her in my arms.
After about a week, she asked if she could stay over in my room since she wanted to give her roommate a night to herself. I said fine and that I would sleep on the floor. However, once we got to the room, it was 4 am, and we both collapsed into my bed. Needless to say, there was no sleep. The one barrier we had was that there was no kissing on the lips and clothes were on but lets just say we didnt get any sleep.
The weird thing was, that even after all of this, we were still able to joke around and act the same. None of it felt unnatural or weird at all. And over the next week, things kept escalating until one day I ended up going down on her (and somehow injuring myself, but thats another story)
Now, I'm not a guy who likes the idea of cheating, so this whole situation started to get to me after awhile. So I gave Jamie an ultimatium. She could have me, or her current BF. She chose her current BF, to which, I said fine and moved on.
But, once she found out I had found another girl, she snapped. Within an hour of finding out, she broke things off with her ex, went on a break with her boyfriend, and basically begged me to stay with her.
And I did.
I know it was weak and a ****ty thing to do since I was already with someone, but I couldnt help it. As good as the other girl is, I just feel more with Jamie.
So for the past week I've been just fooling around and what not with Jamie. Its nice, and she gets insanely jealous when I spend time with the other girl. However, last night, when I said that the cheating thing was really starting to get to me, she clung on to me physically, sobbing that she wanted me with her.
But, when I asked about her BF (Theyre in a "Open relationship" now) She said she loved him and couldnt leave him. Not to mention I got the BS story of how it would hurt our friendship and how she doesnt know what she feels (Called her on these)
At that, I got up and said that maybe she should rethink what love is, if she cheats on the guy she loves three times with three guys. and on that, I left.
Heres the problem though. I really dont wanna leave. I've tried being with the other girl, and it really doesnt compare to Jamie. Same thing goes for any of the other girls ive tried to hook up with. Me and Jamie talked about it before and she wants to be with me, but she doesnt wanna feel "Tied down" (Basically, she wants to mess around with whoever.
Shes been playing alot of people for fools, I would like to think that she held more respect for me than that, but im not blind. Im sure that either subconsously or consously, im being played too. I could play my games back at her, but i dont know if its worthwhile or if itll be effective. I know that I want her, But i dont know what to do in this situation...I've never been in this whole "Open relationship" thing before, Im used to LTR's. I dont know if i should persue her offer of the open relationship, if i should stick to my guns and see if she makes another move to get me back, or if i should just drop her completely. Shes not the hottest girl (
), but shes cute to me, and ive been friends with her for a year and shes got the kind of quirky charisma that attracts me.
Any advice would be helpful. God knows i need it seeing as how shes calling me to come over to her dorm now.
Once again, I have a situation with Jamie (Here's the old situation.) This time around, things are slightly more complicated.
She's basically one of my best friends on campus, has been even after all the drama we've both been in. And I hadn't seen her in over 3 months (Silly summer vacation and busy schedules) so we were both really excited to be back at college cause we both really missed eachother (despite the fact that she called me atleast once a night, if not more)
It all started out fine until on the second day of classes, she asked me to hold her. She had been having a really rough time with her Ex bothering her and her BF living so far away.(He's in Rhode Island, We're in New Jersey) so it seemed like an innocent request. Soon, this became a nightly thing. We'd hang out, talk like friends do, but I would hold her in my arms.
After about a week, she asked if she could stay over in my room since she wanted to give her roommate a night to herself. I said fine and that I would sleep on the floor. However, once we got to the room, it was 4 am, and we both collapsed into my bed. Needless to say, there was no sleep. The one barrier we had was that there was no kissing on the lips and clothes were on but lets just say we didnt get any sleep.
The weird thing was, that even after all of this, we were still able to joke around and act the same. None of it felt unnatural or weird at all. And over the next week, things kept escalating until one day I ended up going down on her (and somehow injuring myself, but thats another story)
Now, I'm not a guy who likes the idea of cheating, so this whole situation started to get to me after awhile. So I gave Jamie an ultimatium. She could have me, or her current BF. She chose her current BF, to which, I said fine and moved on.
But, once she found out I had found another girl, she snapped. Within an hour of finding out, she broke things off with her ex, went on a break with her boyfriend, and basically begged me to stay with her.
And I did.
I know it was weak and a ****ty thing to do since I was already with someone, but I couldnt help it. As good as the other girl is, I just feel more with Jamie.
So for the past week I've been just fooling around and what not with Jamie. Its nice, and she gets insanely jealous when I spend time with the other girl. However, last night, when I said that the cheating thing was really starting to get to me, she clung on to me physically, sobbing that she wanted me with her.
But, when I asked about her BF (Theyre in a "Open relationship" now
) She said she loved him and couldnt leave him. Not to mention I got the BS story of how it would hurt our friendship and how she doesnt know what she feels (Called her on these)At that, I got up and said that maybe she should rethink what love is, if she cheats on the guy she loves three times with three guys. and on that, I left.
Heres the problem though. I really dont wanna leave. I've tried being with the other girl, and it really doesnt compare to Jamie. Same thing goes for any of the other girls ive tried to hook up with. Me and Jamie talked about it before and she wants to be with me, but she doesnt wanna feel "Tied down" (Basically, she wants to mess around with whoever.
Shes been playing alot of people for fools, I would like to think that she held more respect for me than that, but im not blind. Im sure that either subconsously or consously, im being played too. I could play my games back at her, but i dont know if its worthwhile or if itll be effective. I know that I want her, But i dont know what to do in this situation...I've never been in this whole "Open relationship" thing before, Im used to LTR's. I dont know if i should persue her offer of the open relationship, if i should stick to my guns and see if she makes another move to get me back, or if i should just drop her completely. Shes not the hottest girl (
Any advice would be helpful. God knows i need it seeing as how shes calling me to come over to her dorm now.
