"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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being nice or actually wants to hang out?

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Earlier in the spring I took this girl to this formal dinner party. We had a good time, and she was really nice. She told me to call her sometime to hang out, but this was right before school ended so she was going back home for the summer, and really had no reason to call her back.

Over this last semester I talk to her every once and a while, but usually only at parties (I try not to talk to her too much bc im usually drunk and dont want to look like an ass).

Well we were hanging out the other day and I asked her if she wanted to go to this other formal party thing with me again, and she said "oh definetly! I was hopeing you would ask me!" then we started talking about how much fun we had last time,and she brings up how I never called her and I felt like a total douch bag. Then she tells me to definetly call her again so we can hang out.

This is my problem though. Ive always been the quiet/nice guy. It sucks ass, and im slowly trying to change myself. But a lot of girls still see me as that guy and I feel like they are only nice to me because im quiet guy, and not because they really want to hang out with me (probually from lack of confidence, which I am also working on via. the DJ Bible).

So, how do I tell if this girl actually wants to hang out with me, or is just being nice?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I honestly don't think that she would have asked you to call her again if she didn't want to hang out with you.
 

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Originally posted by sparky1981
I honestly don't think that she would have asked you to call her again if she didn't want to hang out with you.
yea, thats true. I just tend to overthink everythign :(
 
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