"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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being more SOCIAL

suaveplayer

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hey guys,
i came upon this DJ stuff bout 3 months ago, been making some positive strides. however, now that school has ended, my exposure to other people and HBs have dimished to almost 0. i know i need to become more social. but the question is how? especially when i dont get invited to hang out that often.

please be specific guys!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Darth_Qurashi

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you can try volunteering. i did it once for some festival, and saw tons of ppl my age. if u have a job involving customer service, u can practice on ur customers. try going to the library too. i kind of have the same problem too, so im just gonna try to get out more, especially to places where i assume girls my age would be at.
 

Rhoto

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Use facebook and Myspace to get into the loop. It's like crack in high school and college, but once you tap into it, you're never left with nothing to do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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john paul

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Dont wait for people to invite you.

You invite them.

Have a bonfire or something real chill. Thats what I did.

The first one I had there was only like 4 people but since then iv had some pretty large groups. Iv had 15, 20 people at my bonfires. When only a couple years ago people in my grade would say who the fvck is john Paul? Now everyone at least knows me if not friends with me.


Theres lots of other things you could try to arrange. Ever played ultimate frisbee? Or a pickup game of basketball at the park. Just call a couple guys and have them bring a friend or two. You dont even have to know these guys real well. Just aquantiences. You will be friends with them soon enough. Once you know some guys well enough you will get invited to the parties and sh!t.


One thing to remember.
If and when you do get invited to something make sure you arnt a drag to hang with. I made the mistake of being quiet and not trying to be the life of the party and because of it I didnt get asked to hang out by those guys for a long time. You gotta be fun. Theres no reason for them to ask you to come along if you arnt.
 

true romance

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How about get a job at A& Fitch. ?
Join local team sport
danse lessons
learn new language

go to meetup.com for your local group

Volunteer for community events, cancer..etc
 

suaveplayer

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what are some good ideas for a fun event that you can host and invite buddies to?

lets start a list:
capture the flag/ultimate frisbee
movie night
 
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