Being ignored...!

[dj_007]

Here's d problem... I have a few gud friends in class, but they r not d popular 1s
and Im gud with some popular guys...
But, if i talk to these guys when they are together, they just end up ignoring me... can't just seem to break into the shell.
Like if there are a bunch of popular guys standing, I might walk up to them and talk to the guys I know well... and then I mite talk to the guys I dont kno much, but they just end up ignoring me because they were kindof busy with their other conversation or they just thought of something to say to their friend.
Same thing with girls, they do talk to me... but if there is a popular guy around, they just end up ignoring me.. its a really sick feelin...

Its not like Im acting needy or anything.... but, somethings wrong somewher..

any1s got any ideas??

 

[Deryk]

You shouldn't force yourself into conversations then come out of them.
Rather you should go up listen to the conversation and slowly progress into them

..And for the girl thing when they start ignoring you when a popular guy comes up
... Guys do the same thing when a pretty girl comes up.

 

[jeffthechef]

is this really a problem though? If you talk to some of them and the others ignore you, assuming they know who you are, then it's probably a popularity thing.

Or, it's the way you enter the conversation. you say you dopn't come off as needy..but some people just try and jump into conversations with popular kids to beocme popular and end up doing it so often that everyone notices

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But here's the bigger point..HS POPULARITY IS ****..will get you no where in life...here's how i know...

Popular kids at my school and my friends' high schools too...most of them smoke/drink/cheat on tests/lie/bully/etc...now of course there are some popular kids who are good and nice, but they are about 1 out of every 10 or 20...

now, disregarding the minority in the popular group...why do the majority of the popular kids..who do all those negative things and exclude others from their little clique deserve to be POPULAR...because POPULAR=FOLLOWER...THEY ALL ACT THE SAME and CLING TO EACH OTHER..

why are the nerds who study, WHICH IS THE ****ING POINT OF SCHOOL, looked down on?..why are emo kids hated when supposedly we support diversity and independence?

now maybe your high school is different..but at mine, i see it everyday..the majority of the popular kids just like to party and during the past 3 years i have not seen anyone enter their clique without having to start doing what they were doing...

and that popular group was founded by those who were at this school since kindergarten..

When you're in college, your hs popularity means ****. When you're applying for a job, the interviewer won't ask you to rate how popular you were in hs.

Now, here's one POSSIBLE positive of hs popularity, you have some sort of social skills. But the thing is, even the unpopular can develop/possess these and still not be popular so they may also enter college with these same skills.

I'll also concede a bit more...popular hs kids aren't completely bad. They're nice to others in classroom settings. but i've heard them gossip quite a bit about others, mainly within their social group...

I don't know. From what i've seen, i would suggest you stay where you are. It's good to have some connectison with the popular kids. But overall, i would suggest you base yourself mainly with the others. Unless of course, you already get wasted often then go ahead. BUT I WANT TO ****ING GET INTO MY LIST OF COLLEGES AND I KNOW SMOKING/DRINKING WON'T GET ME THERE.

Be wise about the decisions you make. Surround yourself with people of superior character.
Not the biggest fan of Oprah, but here, "Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher."

 

[Amberjhons]

Don't give yourself too much pressure and never force yourself to do sth,maybe you can make some friends here.