"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Being honest

blindboi

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Hey guys, got a question about honesty. I recently got out of a relationship and I have been on date with a few girls since. I don't want to jump into another relationship, just casual dating.

What is your method to tell a girl you only want to date casually? I was thinking being upfront and honest by saying, "I enjoy your company but I'm not looking for anything serious". Or something along the lines of that.

What do you guys think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Skalioppe

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I say nothing, because you don't do anything which jeopardises your dating weaponry.

I find that generally speaking women want something long term, so as soon as you qualify that you don't, they will drop you like a sh1tty stick. That to me at least, is a stupid move.

If they get heavy after you've moved into more physical territory you can back off, but just go with the flow and enjoy the flavours available on the menu - you're both adults.
 

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blindboi said:
What is your method to tell a girl you only want to date casually? I was thinking being upfront and honest by saying, "I enjoy your company but I'm not looking for anything serious". Or something along the lines of that.

What do you guys think?
You don't, you show it with your actions... you just don't see them as often...like if you see them only once a week and you don't invest too much time and effort by always checking up on them, they'll pick it up. you could tell them when they ask, but you shouldn't tell them upfront when they're not asking
 

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So I was upfront and honest with her, she wanted a pure sexual relationship. Nothing more, just **** buddies. Everything went better then expected :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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