"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Being Funny is the key to DJness?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BigOlePappy
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But its kinda the same thing.
So yeah I agree.
Don't be too funny though. If you look like you are trying to hard it looks bad.
Dannyrt34
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And about the whole FUN thing, anybody can be FUN, anytime, anywhere. That's what you need to do.
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BigOlePappy
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But don't try too hard. You'll get the hang of when to draw the line. But if you are having fun, fvck the line.
However, you don't have to be amazingly funny to be good with chicks. The real key is having fun. If you can show that you are a cool, fun guy, people will want to hang with you.
I guess what I mean to say that humor shows that you are a fun guy to be around. That is the most important thing, you have to be fun.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
It takes them out of their socially conditioned minds, and allows them to ride their light pleasurable feelings.
This is what you want, cause those same pleasurable feelings want to bone!
But...... its not the end all!
Other qualites produce other equally seductive feelings/responses.
Imagine other ladies-men.
James Dean for example. He wasn't cracking jokes. He was the rebel bad-boy. Wild, Free, Dark, Mysterious, Dangerous!
Such other qualities are definetly equally powerful.
Its all how you respond to what the moment demands.
Don't limit your Key to one quality... it would be terribly naive, and ignorant to your "game." Think back and try to figure which qualities your character has succesfully and naturally been, in situations where you created attraction. Reflect on those... and how specifically you related them. What was their effect? Learn to bring such mannerisms through yourself more, with other women. Get creative.
This will also allow you to see where your "game" lacks, in regard to certain qualities. Say... if your not as "mysterious" as you are "funny." You might want to try incorporating some of these qualities in your relating. See how it differs your response from women. Etc etc etc.
Its all feedback.
You can only win, and refine!
Peace'