being funny is not enough.

[emelec]

I know im not a bad looking guy and i know im pretty damn funny. i know that being funny and witty is a problem to others but i have no trouble being funny. now this seems to be a double edged sword because although i can have girls laughing uncontrollably i feel that this is not enough to get them crazy about me. I would like to know what other aspect of my personality do i need in order to get girls. especially since i am usualy busy with school and work so i cant see them so i need to know what else in a conversation wheter online or on the phone besides laughter i need to build attraction and raise interest

 

[HandyAndy]

****y & Funny.

Look it up of you havnt heard about it

 

[ChrizZ]

humor is a great tool to have as long as you keep escalating.

 

[guayaballer]

is it possible to escalate with words or is the only way through kino?

 

[GaryUranga]

guys its not about tricks, its not you need to do CF like here or you need to touch her shoulder then her hip and then her pinky toe in that order or it wont work, its all abou who youre beign who youre comign across as, I dunno you but if youre physically attractive nad youre beign a goof youll just be that cute guys whos funny not a catch, you gotta know how to do this and keep yourself up there beign cooler than her, beign the one with the status to a point where youre really interesting but to her theres so much depth there that she just wants to be with you, its about BEING the guy that she wants

 

[Maxtro]

You don't want to be a dancing monkey. It's good that you are funny and witty but cracking too many jokes is a sign of weakness. You might want to tone it down a notch and try the other methods posted in this thread.

 

[playa99]

personally i think that being funny in high school is over rated, yeah you need to be funny, but not over the top with it, otherwise you will become what i like to call a "funny guy" all words and no action, you need to be slightly ****y and funny but not all the time, kino especially you need to show her that you aint a sexual dud lol and you need to use keep away, go on the HS bible and read the three basic principles to attract any girl i think the title, although i would recommend not being too ****y and funny and being quite sweet/charming theres a post on that in the HS bible as well and you will be attracting any girl you like

 

[Mr Plow]

you need to kino

Yes and you know you're getting somewhere when she starts doing it back to you.

You'd be surprised how much kino a girl will allow you to give her. I remember in lesson once, I was sitting next to some hot-ish girl, I didn't know her very well, but I got up to speak to my friend. Anyway, as I came to sit back down, she had taken the chance to switch seats with me, to be closer to one of her friends. Well anyway, without thinking about it this way, I put my hands around her from behind, as though just to like shift her out of my seat, and she let me hold her like that for ages. I mean it's not too much, but seeing as I'd hardly spoken to her whatsoever, I was surprised at the time that she didn't mind that. She just kinda looked me in the eyes with a little bit of a smile. It was only afterwards that I realised how it must have seemed.

 

[emelec]

guys its not about tricks, its not you need to do CF like here or you need to touch her shoulder then her hip and then her pinky toe in that order or it wont work, its all abou who youre beign who youre comign across as, I dunno you but if youre physically attractive nad youre beign a goof youll just be that cute guys whos funny not a catch, you gotta know how to do this and keep yourself up there beign cooler than her, beign the one with the status to a point where youre really interesting but to her theres so much depth there that she just wants to be with you, its about BEING the guy that she wants

yess this is what i mean. HOW do i become this how do i add this depth. could you point me in the right direction?

 

[GaryUranga]

well its hard to explain its one of those things you only get after a while, it took me some time to get what it is, you ever watched a girly movie? where the girl gets all exited when the guy just talks to her, that kind of thing whats the common trend in that? a) the guy is cooler than the girl, b)hes not all over the place when talkign to her,thtas a stupid example but maybe you get what Im trying to say here, I think youre maybe going over to theese girls and givign all your funnyness in like a jokign machine more than a confident guy who is also funny

 

[War Against Betaism]

That's why I don't like it when people follow David DeAngelo's material. His approach on ****y and funny is overemphasized. He makes it the be it all when it comes to women, which I don't think is true at all. To me a girl is most attracted to your status. High status can be determined through so many little things, and the good thing is you don't need the fancy suits, expensive watches, cars, etc. You need to be well groomed. Looks don't matter to a woman but being well groomed matters a lot. You don't have to follow a trend though, try to come up with your own style; stand out from the rest of the crowd while being well groomed. Mystery calls it peacocking. There's this guy at the club that I see every time I go there, and he's popular as well as having his own unique style. I have never met him before, but I sense a high status male all around him.

 

[(JJ)]

you mentioned you dont get to hang out in person very much so a temporary solution (till you have a break from other stuff) is to twist what the girls say to something sexual and accuse them of hitting on you. Im also a pretty quick witted guy but i find that texting is an amazing weapon if you can do that kind of thing

 

[LostAndConfused]

You don't want to be a dancing monkey. It's good that you are funny and witty but cracking too many jokes is a sign of weakness. You might want to tone it down a notch and try the other methods posted in this thread.

This man speaks the truth. One of the problems I had was that I was too funny. Cracking too many jokes can actually put you in the friend zone because if the girl has problems with her relationships for other guys, she'll look to you to cheer her up with jokes.

 

[J-dog]

Jokes don't always work, just use a joke to brake the ice.