"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Being distant all of a sudden

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So this is a step by step of what happened:

1.We met up for drinks a few weeks ago,ended up making out

2.Met up again somewhere - ended up fvcking her brains out.The sex was great.

3.She feels insecure as sh1t and starts telling me about how she never does this with dudes shes not in a serious relationship with. She starts calling me a player, asking me how many girls Ive banged. I laughed it off.

4.She goes outta town for a few days. Comes back,next thing you know shes acting very cold and distant. I am 100% sure she didnt meet anyone in the two days,lol.

Based on our post sex conversation,part of me feels like she thinks Im playing her..

Not sure how to proceed guys. What do you normally do here - Is asking her whatsup a bad idea?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SoSuave666

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Ask her out on another date. Have secks with her again.

Repeat.
 

Hustlaz Ambition

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If she is acting distant there is the possibility of that, BUT at least you ****ed her if everything goes downhill.
 

Renegade357

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It could be an ex lurking in the background that contacted her or she could just be freaking out. You guys got hot and heavy fast. You've only seen her a few times so you're nowhere close to winning her over.

Just slow it down a little bit. Wait 3-5 days then ask her out and make sure you both have a good time.

If she yes but does any of the following on the date she's out:
1. Does not give any ground and keeps up the distance routine during the next date. (You gotta make progress.)
2. refuses to touch or kiss you (duh)
3. flakes
4. runs hot/cold (that means the loser ex b/f is definitely in the picture)

Good luck.
 

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Read Naughty Ninja's "golden pvssy" thread. That could explain it.
She feels bad for giving it up so easily and now wants to make you grovel for it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks for the replies guys.

Its amazing how she would text me all the time before that and now shes suddenly gone into this major anti slvt mode, lol.

I checked out the golden pvssy thread, very interesting stuff - put things into a different perspective.

In such scenarios do you guys feel that its a bad idea to ask her what the problem is? Obviously this would be a one time question and if she still acts b1tchy, then it would be time to move the fvck on.
 

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This is the normal scenario. God, I've had this happen once a year for my life. She absolutely was with someone else, BUT there is no problem (yet).

There are 3 scenarios:

1) You whine to her and blow it and she says LJBF.
2) You go away for 30 days and she is 99% likely to text you and it will mean instant sex (which is why they avoid you - they know they are obligated when they do indeed see you so it's pressure). It could turn into a relationship at that point, with her having higher interest. Keep the upper hand.
3) You go away for a few months and then you just try again and she is very likely to date you (if the sex was good to her).
 
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