Most women think they are the prize and will question men about themselves. Many times when questioned, AFC's will go on the defensive on things. People go on the defensive when they have something to hide. It may be nothing major but when you go on the defensive it tells the other person you have something to hide.
A good example of this was the other day when me and my plate were arranging sleeping arrangments when she visits me in october. She lives far away and we only met once for an hour.
She mentioned that she doesn't mind sharing a bed and joked that she'll kick me out if I'm turning all night. Before in my AFC days I would have said no i don't turn toss and turn in bed and reassured her but now I don't go on the defensive anymore. I told her I hope she doesn't snore or I'll kick her out!
Thats just a small example and I turned the situation around by not reacting and going on the offensive in a joking manner.
Being defensive is a big reaction and you only react like that when a person has higher value then you and you're looking to please them. If you were babysitting your 6 year old nephew and he accused you of doing something you did or didn't do how would you react? You'd laugh at him because it wouldn't really matter to you.
So, don't react or be defensive!
A good example of this was the other day when me and my plate were arranging sleeping arrangments when she visits me in october. She lives far away and we only met once for an hour.
She mentioned that she doesn't mind sharing a bed and joked that she'll kick me out if I'm turning all night. Before in my AFC days I would have said no i don't turn toss and turn in bed and reassured her but now I don't go on the defensive anymore. I told her I hope she doesn't snore or I'll kick her out!
Thats just a small example and I turned the situation around by not reacting and going on the offensive in a joking manner.
Being defensive is a big reaction and you only react like that when a person has higher value then you and you're looking to please them. If you were babysitting your 6 year old nephew and he accused you of doing something you did or didn't do how would you react? You'd laugh at him because it wouldn't really matter to you.
So, don't react or be defensive!