Being Consistent

[backbreaker]

This was the theme of our NA meeting tonight and this got me thinking, beucase it's a very good topic

I remember when I first got here to this forum I spent 3 weeks doing nothing but reading the DJ bible. I'm wired like that naturally ; when i want to do something i throw myself into it. I don't do warm, I either am all in or I'm all out.

I wanted to be the perfect DJ. Moreso, I wanted to be the perfect DJ NAO! not tomorrow. not next week, not next year, right now.

Then when I didn't get what I wanted, I would get pissy, leave the forum and get hurt even more, then come back, throw myself into this, not get the results I wanted, leave. lol.

This **** went on for 4 years. Until I said you know what, something I'm doing isn't right. I stopped worrying about being the perfect DJ and started making sure I just tried to do my best everyday. That's the key, everyday.

For the next 3-4 years i'd wake up and read one DJ bible versus. I have an almost encyclopedic knowledge of the DJ bible. Instead of trying to approach 20 girls a week i just approached a girl i thought was cute when i saw her.

In short, I started to incorporate this into my life and stopped trying to make it my entire life and when i did that, i started to see real long lasting results in my mind set and results in ***** gotten.


I had the same problem with the gym when i first started to lose weight. I was in the gym 7 days a week. I wore myself out then i'd crash and just eat whatever the fvck i could find lol. it wasn't until i cut my work schedule down and gave myself more rest days and allowed myself to cheat ever once in a while that the weight stayed off and ironically enough i 've never looked better.


If there is anything I do today well it's that i'm extraordinary consistent.. myw ife will say predictable but i say consistent.

I'm going to lift weights on Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday. I'm going to go swim on Wednesday after dinner. I'm going go to to an NA meeting on Monday, Thursday, Friday, Sunday night. I don't even think about it i just do it. I'm going to watch what I eat 6 days a week and on Saturdays I'm going to eat whatever the fvck i feel like eating.

Consistency is the key. Consistency is the only chance in hell you have of keeping anything resembling a spark in a relationship. It's the only way you are going to keep plates flowing in. Too many guys come here, get some half ass results, then leave. I did it at first. Then when you don't get the results anymore you get pissy. too many guys get a girl and stop going to the gym stop doing **** they need to do.


In short, stop trying to be super DJ man and talk to 25 girls at once and read everything on the forum in 2 days and be more concerned about making being a better man a part of your everyday life. even if it's a little bit at your time.

Here are some tangible examples of how you can be consistent:

1. incorporate a workout routine that actually fits into your schedule and you can keep as a part of your life from here on out or at least for the foreseeable future. stop trying to be mr Olympia.

2. I had a lot of hobbies i wanted to pursue and i tired to do them all at once and i couldn't and i would get frustrated. pick one lol. and incorporate that. then when you do that, pick another. this **** was like e=mc squared to me lol. this is not how i'm wired.


3. Say you need to change your wardrobe game up. put 100-200 back a month whatever you can afford that won't kill you and build your wardrobe up


4. Pick 10 books that you really find interesting and and set out to read a book a month. not a book a week lol.

5. If you do something that isn't the most DJ thing on earth don't kill yourself over it. see what you did wrong, figure out why you did it, come here for advice if need be, move on. Get out of this I'm an AFC or I'm a DJ mode that's bull ****. I do AFC **** all the time i'm not perfect. But I do alot more DJ **** than I do AFC **** today. But I have my moments.


It's progress not perfection is the point. as long as you are here trying, honestly trying you are progressing.

 

[disgustipated]

I'd add in patience. Sometimes, even when consistent, you reach plateaus in progression or the increments of progress are so.small they are unnoticeable. You have to stay the course sometimes....and you need patience for that.

Example. At work I've progressed a bit in a years time. There are tons of lateral moves I can make and only one forward move. I'm being bottlenecked by the laziness or inability of 1-2 people. I know I have to be patient and consistent. I can't throw my hands up in the air and say what's the point!!?? I have to keep producing every day despite non ideal conditions. And I have to.have patience in waiting these ****heads out. They are causing my plateau at the moment. I can't even realize what my own ceiling is because of.these guys, very frustrating. I.can't shine. I can't see ANY progress , the bottleneck insures that.

So i agree. Be consistent in taking care of your business. Be it health, work or.relationships.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Consistency has nothing to do with it. But I see what you're trying to say.

The only thing ANY man should do "consistently" is what is in his own best interest. The MINUTE an action, habit or behavior is no longer beneficial to you, it needs to be dropped.

Outside of factors you can't control, succeeding in a free country only boils down to one rule --> Always do what's in your best interest.

Now, the main problem with that rule is many people don't know whats in their best interest. Knowing whats good for you requires a lifetime worth of knowledge and wisdom. You can't make smart choices if you're not aware which choices are smart.

A well known saying is: "The truth will set you free". Some people interpret that to mean telling the truth will set you free. I disagree. I believe it means KNOWING the truth will set you free. WISDOM. Once you know the truth about ALL areas of life: women, money, politics, business, fitness, cars, whatever... you are now in a position to ALWAYS do what's in your best interest because you KNOW whats in your best interest.

Lots of people fear facts and truths because it causes bad emotions or damage to their ego. Well.. GET OVER IT. There is little to be gained from being delusional outside of some short-term bliss. Like the fat chick who believes she will marry Robert Pattinson one day... sooner or later her sloppy ass will realize it ain't gonna happen. But only after wasting precious time rejecting men she actually had a chance with in her prime :nono:

Men fall into similar ego based delusions. Squandering all their money and time on get-rich-quick schemes, abusive women, drugs, showing off, religion (yeah I said it), trying to be like Batman and other stupid time-wasters.

The key to being a good DJ is simple --> Always do whats good for you. PERIOD.

 

[CostaDeSol]

1. incorporate a workout routine that actually fits into your schedule and you can keep as a part of your life from here on out or at least for the foreseeable future. stop trying to be mr Olympia.

I agree.

Last year I started a workout program but i was missing too many days due to my work schedule, and as a result, i noticed no significant changes in my physique.


But recently I modified my routine so that I can maneuver it around my work schedule. Now, after six weeks, i haven't missed ONE workout day and I have been starting to get compliments on my biceps and chest.

 

[Dedication]

I read this and i agreed with BB, i also saw that i'm flawed in points 3 & 4. BB is still giving solid advice that i can learn from i see.

Well, after that i scrolled down and i saw PlayHer Man's posts, i thought "GODDAMN THAT **** LOOKS LIKE A MOTHER****ING PAINTING! Is this your personal art class or wtf are you trying to do hahaha!" That went on for a good minute or 2.

I mean, PlayHer Man's post has merit but it looks so girly. I think i'm going to stop reading this Naruto manga i've been following for 5 years now. Its been on and off, i've been trying to get rid of that habit in the past but right now i'm moving on from that habit, it wasn't helping me one bit.

 

[backbreaker]

the whole point of the post is as rome wasn't built in a day. Being a DJ is not a video game, it's a way of life. so you have to make a part of your everday life it's not something you accomplish then go do something else.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Well, after that i scrolled down and i saw PlayHer Man's posts, i thought "GODDAMN THAT **** LOOKS LIKE A MOTHER****ING PAINTING! Is this your personal art class or wtf are you trying to do hahaha!" That went on for a good minute or 2.

I mean, PlayHer Man's post has merit but it looks so girly.

Well.. I see you have your priorities in order. Wisdom vs. Style. Hmmm... which one matters most..........???? :crackup:

You choose Style. Similar to buying a book because you like the picture on the front. Nice work.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

The only thing ANY man should do "consistently" is what is in his own best interest. The MINUTE an action, habit or behavior is no longer beneficial to you, it needs to be dropped.

When is an appropriate time for these "benefits" to appear? With what degree of expectation is acceptable?

Are actions today that have an 80% of being fruitful in year merit doing?

Ever action is uncertain. You NEVER know for SURE if any or your actions will result in a benefit.

Many business relationships are built because of the potential future benefit that may or may not happen.

How specifically, do you KNOW, when any particular action WILL NOT benefit you, so you'll know when to drop it?

Plenty of businesses have failed miserably because entrepreneurs THOUGHT that what they were doing would benefit them, when it didn't.

Unless you're ONLY living for the next ten minutes, your prescription doesn't appear to be very useful.

 

[PlayHer Man]

When is an appropriate time for these "benefits" to appear? With what degree of expectation is acceptable?

Are actions today that have an 80% of being fruitful in year merit doing?

Ever action is uncertain. You NEVER know for SURE if any or your actions will result in a benefit.

Many business relationships are built because of the potential future benefit that may or may not happen.

How specifically, do you KNOW, when any particular action WILL NOT benefit you, so you'll know when to drop it?

Plenty of businesses have failed miserably because entrepreneurs THOUGHT that what they were doing would benefit them, when it didn't.

Unless you're ONLY living for the next ten minutes, your prescription doesn't appear to be very useful.

Some things are FACTS and those facts should be accepted and embraced. All non-facts are speculation that require critical thinking on your part. You just have to do what you believe makes the most sense.

This is why I mentioned the importance of seeking the TRUTH in all areas of life. The more you know, the less ignorant you are --> The better decisions you make.