Being confident side effect of getting women?

[Bvbidd]

Does being confident actually attract women or is being confident just a side effect of getting women?

 

[BacardiGuy]

I'd say it definitely attracts a woman, but the two work hand in hand as you undoubtedly gain more confidence once you get women. It's a bonus really since you then go out and attract even more women.

 

[manbearpig]

What are the best ways to build confidence other than getting women?

 

[blinkwatt]

What are the best ways to build confidence other than getting women?

Going to the gym,taking care of yourself(showering everyday,shaving,combed hair daily), buying clothes that you are truyl comfortable with wearing(yes this means you may have to drop $50 or more per shirt). Just take care of yourself as if you were a Ferrari or your own baby and you will learn to value yourself and realize how unique you are.

 

[Desdinova]

I would say that confidence definately helps attract women, but the confidence from getting women is only temporary. I know many men who are in LTRs and marriages who are much less confident than when they were single.

I find the best way to gain confidence is telling yourself that you are capable of anything, you can stand up for yourself, and have survived the many blows of life. Affirmations helped me out greatly, and when you see them to be true, it raises your confidence in yourself even more. It's kinda like getting interest on your savings account. It just keeps on growing.

 

[BacardiGuy]

Confidence will build naturally as you begin to recognize you are more capable than you think, and that comes with getting out of your comfort zone and staying out as much as possible. Try new things.

Personally, I started dressing differently, talking to more people/more often, started exercising more, different sports (paintball is great in the sense that you can only win if you're aggressive, which requires confidence. The people who don't make the moves are the ones getting shot to **** :kick: )

A few years ago I was uncomfortable talking to strangers but through high school I worked in retail so that played a big part in helping me be more sociable.

Try to think in what areas your confidence is lacking and figure out what you can do to improve upon it from there.

 

[Fuglydude]

For me confidence comes from constant self improvement and doing what I can to maximize my natural potential in the areas of my life that are important to me...namely these are education, physique, life experience (experiencing a wide variety of things), being a "good" altruistic human being, etc...

Quite frankly, I don't really understand why we even try to get women. In my experience women do the approaching once they realise you're a confident desirable guy...the rest on how to keep the relationship going is upto us. I just think we should focus way more on ourselves and doing things to improve rather than doing these things solely to get girls. Just my 2 cents.

 

[realsmoothie]

For me confidence comes from constant self improvement and doing what I can to maximize my natural potential in the areas of my life that are important to me...namely these are education, physique, life experience (experiencing a wide variety of things), being a "good" altruistic human being, etc...

Quite frankly, I don't really understand why we even try to get women. In my experience women do the approaching once they realise you're a confident desirable guy...the rest on how to keep the relationship going is upto us. I just think we should focus way more on ourselves and doing things to improve rather than doing these things solely to get girls. Just my 2 cents.

Awesome summary of the way I was thinking as I went down this thread.

Though I would say that you can be confident as all heck, pimped out, good job, feelin' life and so on... but if you have some DJ "skills" as discussed on this site it can only help more. The two together are certainly deadly.

 

[Bvbidd]

I know confident guys that do not get chicks though some are good looking and have value too.