"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Being confident side effect of getting women?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
BacardiGuy
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manbearpig
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Going to the gym,taking care of yourself(showering everyday,shaving,combed hair daily), buying clothes that you are truyl comfortable with wearing(yes this means you may have to drop $50 or more per shirt). Just take care of yourself as if you were a Ferrari or your own baby and you will learn to value yourself and realize how unique you are.manbearpig said:
Desdinova
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I find the best way to gain confidence is telling yourself that you are capable of anything, you can stand up for yourself, and have survived the many blows of life. Affirmations helped me out greatly, and when you see them to be true, it raises your confidence in yourself even more. It's kinda like getting interest on your savings account. It just keeps on growing.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BacardiGuy
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Personally, I started dressing differently, talking to more people/more often, started exercising more, different sports (paintball is great in the sense that you can only win if you're aggressive, which requires confidence. The people who don't make the moves are the ones getting shot to **** :kick: )
A few years ago I was uncomfortable talking to strangers but through high school I worked in retail so that played a big part in helping me be more sociable.
Try to think in what areas your confidence is lacking and figure out what you can do to improve upon it from there.
Fuglydude
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Quite frankly, I don't really understand why we even try to get women. In my experience women do the approaching once they realise you're a confident desirable guy...the rest on how to keep the relationship going is upto us. I just think we should focus way more on ourselves and doing things to improve rather than doing these things solely to get girls. Just my 2 cents.
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Awesome summary of the way I was thinking as I went down this thread.Fuglydude said:
Though I would say that you can be confident as all heck, pimped out, good job, feelin' life and so on... but if you have some DJ "skills" as discussed on this site it can only help more. The two together are certainly deadly.