being clingy needy insecure. Need help

[vivek59234]

Hello DJs,

I have finally figured out my problem and you will have to help me in this.

I have been in relationship from past 3 months. It began perfectly started dating each other we love each other. We are having sex almost twice or thrice in a week.

She works with me in same office and we are meeting 3 times in a day. We are talking and texting in morning and in night everyday.

Everything was perfect and suddenly she has started being distant from past month.

She doesn't have that much eagerness, she doesn't reply or call me often. Even if she meets regularly I can feel her interest level going down.

I have been pleading giving more and more attention and she is becoming distant.

I blew it up last night by being so harsh on her. I became very dominant and texted her so many things.

Now I know she is still interested and somehow I have to change myself on this.

How to respond her ? How to behave ? How to give space ?

How to overcome my insecurities ? Shall I stop meeting her thrice ?

Please help

 

[Epimanes]

Its pretty simple ...

read this.---- > http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16926 (kill your desperation)

 

[lamobatsman]

Hello DJs,

I have finally figured out my problem and you will have to help me in this.

I have been in relationship from past 3 months. It began perfectly started dating each other we love each other. We are having sex almost twice or thrice in a week.

She works with me in same office and we are meeting 3 times in a day. We are talking and texting in morning and in night everyday.

Everything was perfect and suddenly she has started being distant from past month.

She doesn't have that much eagerness, she doesn't reply or call me often. Even if she meets regularly I can feel her interest level going down.

I have been pleading giving more and more attention and she is becoming distant.

I blew it up last night by being so harsh on her. I became very dominant and texted her so many things.

Now I know she is still interested and somehow I have to change myself on this.

How to respond her ? How to behave ? How to give space ?

How to overcome my insecurities ? Shall I stop meeting her thrice ?

Please help

what sort of things did you text her when youw ere harsh?

 

[self-respect]

Your princess is in another castle. AKA she's found another d!ck. It happens. There will be more.

 

[vivek59234]

what sort of things did you text her when youw ere harsh?

I gave her a project to work on. I saw her online on wats app. You can easily know that she is talking to someone else.

Me : how is it going? Did u finish it ?

I have given u responsibility and u need to prove urself.

Her : sure

Me : cool. I am sure u will handle this easily.

Her : sure

Me : I was thinking about something. You might have to take a day off tomorrow or day after because you know we are opening a new office and there. Will be lot of work.

Don't worry I will take care of your current salary.

No reply for 10 minutes . But she still talks to friends.

Me : I asked you something

Her : please understand let me work because friends are disturbing but you should understand .

Me : OK fine

She still talks to her friends .

Me : whom are you talking to ?

She : with one of her friend (girl).

Me : I don't know anything. I want you to be with me whenever I want.

Get ready for leave tomorrow or day after.

I will take care of your salary.

No reply.

Me : sorry no respect no attention. I can't tolerate this. Gud nyt.

Her : what is this ?

I didn't reply.

Her : after an hour. I have completed my work. Please check in morning sweetheart.


This is whole conversation. How should I handle this now ?

 

[vivek59234]

Your princess is in another castle. AKA she's found another d!ck. It happens. There will be more.

She hasnt and I am pretty sure because she is not getting time to come out of office at all.I meet her thrice a day and she rides her scooter long way to home.

I have checked and confirmed that she has friends and she is not getting any other **** for sure because she is always ready for sex with me. Even if she has backed off habit. She is still in me. Shall I give her space ? Is it too late ?

 

[Epimanes]

Me : I don't know anything. I want you to be with me whenever I want.

Get ready for leave tomorrow or day after.

I will take care of your salary.

No reply.

Me : sorry no respect no attention. I can't tolerate this. Gud nyt.

Her : what is this ?

You see those two bolded sentences? If I was this chick .. I would be nexting you after comments like those. You wonder why shes being distant? You seem to be trying to control her. I bet you she was very offended by those comments. Infact her response "what is this?" is very telling. I bet she feels you are using her....

Go read the DJ bible again man ... this is DEF not very smooth talk of a DJ. You should have been a bit more covert.

Good Luck with this one ... i think you fvcked up.

 

[vivek59234]

You see those two bolded sentences? If I was this chick .. I would be nexting you after comments like those. You wonder why shes being distant? You seem to be trying to control her. I bet you she was very offended by those comments. Infact her response "what is this?" is very telling. I bet she feels you are using her....

Go read the DJ bible again man ... this is DEF not very smooth talk of a DJ. You should have been a bit more covert.

Good Luck with this one ... i think you fvcked up.

Shall I apologize ?

How should i behave ?

Do I still have chances ?

I have been trying to control her which has always been a turn off for her so far.

I see my fault now. Can you please help ? I really want her back like she was.

 

[pdx1138]

Ignore her completely. Don't start conversations about the two of you, only for work related.

If she starts talking to you about after work stuff then fine, go from there.

Don't say things like you did. ever. Unless you want to fail in relationships.

 

[lamobatsman]

Me : I don't know anything. I want you to be with me whenever I want.

what does this mean? why would you say this.

what does i dont know anything mean?

 

[vivek59234]

She called me up in morning saying "Why are you showing so much of attitude" ?

I told her, there is nothing like that. Where are you? let's meet and discuss.

We usually begin our day by meeting. We met in my car. She was politely teasing me.

I then kissed her and she was all ok. I politely asked "you have been being distant from a long time... I don't like it." She said "nothing like that".

Then she opened up and started her conversation about nice things. I carefully listened to her convos.

Then she explained me that I shouldn't force her because she can't just get out of office since she just took 5 days off. She worked till 2 am for me last night blah blah blah.

I then kissed her and we had a nice foreplay.

She is all ready to have sex and fun. What I have figured out is that her interest level might have dropped down because I am too much into her..

I am being needy and desperate.

Our usual routine so far... We meed three times in a day in my car (5-10 mins).

We say each other Good morning love u in text on daily basis... We used to daily chat at night.

We are in the same company.

So how should I handle this?

I think she is still interested in me.

Please suggest and I will really appreciate your help.

Thanks in advance

 

[QuadDeuces]

You blew it brah.
Too late now she has seen your chumpy side. We've all been there, now pull the plug and save yourself some dignity before she does it for you.