Jizamurai
Don Juan
Girl taps me on the shoulder. I have my headphones on. I look up and its ****(HB8.5). We had hit it off alright the previous night when I met her. I was surprised to see her so soon again. “Hi” she says with a smile. “Oh, hi.” I say looking kind of surprised. She finds some humor in that, at least. “So, uh, what are doing here.”
She goes on to say that her class has been cancelled and blah, blah, blah.
Then when she leaves I later end up walking towards the exit where she is again. I say something a little witty but it could have been better(didn’t hear me too well anyways. Durp!) I kind of linger thinking of something to say... I do finally. We exchange a few words and I finally leave.
When I was talking to her the previous night, I think I did fairly well. I could feel it. But today, I just destroyed whatever I had built up last night. I was crouched down looking at paints (art student) with my headphones on, in my own world. She came up to get my attention, so obviously she enjoyed talking to me the previous night. I had something going. Emphasis on “had”.
I could have said “Hey... are you stalking me or something? Hey, I know I’m attractive but I’m still a human being!” Or something like that, something that would show I had a pair.
The point is that I wasn’t expecting her. She caught me off guard. I didn’t have time to think back to all the great stuff that I’ve learned at SO-SUAVE.
Has this happened to anyone else? I’m sure it has. I’m sure there are a lot of people here that read all the posts and feel that they’ve got things figured out. But even then your still too nervous to actually take action because your afraid you’ll fail. Even though you’ve read every article in the Hall of Fame, approaching women isn’t natural yet. I know I was like this.
Pook recently posted something about failing and how it must happen it order for us to actually learn something. As usual, it was genius.(to newbies like me: If you haven’t read it yet then DO IT! http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20106) But I didn’t actually find out how true it was until I actually screwed up just recently.
You need to keep going out and Don Juaning until it becomes so natural that you eventually don’t get phased by spontaneous things like what happened to me. You should be able to adapt to any situation and have that witty suave mentality where you're always in control.
Just thought this might be relevant to someone. Has anyone had a similar experience?
She goes on to say that her class has been cancelled and blah, blah, blah.
Then when she leaves I later end up walking towards the exit where she is again. I say something a little witty but it could have been better(didn’t hear me too well anyways. Durp!) I kind of linger thinking of something to say... I do finally. We exchange a few words and I finally leave.
When I was talking to her the previous night, I think I did fairly well. I could feel it. But today, I just destroyed whatever I had built up last night. I was crouched down looking at paints (art student) with my headphones on, in my own world. She came up to get my attention, so obviously she enjoyed talking to me the previous night. I had something going. Emphasis on “had”.
I could have said “Hey... are you stalking me or something? Hey, I know I’m attractive but I’m still a human being!” Or something like that, something that would show I had a pair.
The point is that I wasn’t expecting her. She caught me off guard. I didn’t have time to think back to all the great stuff that I’ve learned at SO-SUAVE.
Has this happened to anyone else? I’m sure it has. I’m sure there are a lot of people here that read all the posts and feel that they’ve got things figured out. But even then your still too nervous to actually take action because your afraid you’ll fail. Even though you’ve read every article in the Hall of Fame, approaching women isn’t natural yet. I know I was like this.
Pook recently posted something about failing and how it must happen it order for us to actually learn something. As usual, it was genius.(to newbies like me: If you haven’t read it yet then DO IT! http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20106) But I didn’t actually find out how true it was until I actually screwed up just recently.
You need to keep going out and Don Juaning until it becomes so natural that you eventually don’t get phased by spontaneous things like what happened to me. You should be able to adapt to any situation and have that witty suave mentality where you're always in control.
Just thought this might be relevant to someone. Has anyone had a similar experience?