italostud: Being "tricky" is good. This is my thoughts on dating, and why this is good.
Everytime I date a new girl, I see it as a struggle for power. One of us is going to gain more power in the 'relationship' than the other. If I'm an Alpha Male, then I'll definately gain that, if I'm not, the other extreme is a guy who is whipped (like 99% of the guys you see with their girlfriends).
Well when I first start dating a new girl, I like to get her to chase me. If I'm chasing her, that means she has something I want (and she knows it) and I'm now fighting to get it. So what I do is once I've established initial attraction, I begin throwing her mixed signals so she can't figure me out. I know exactly how she feels; I can read her body language and signals like an open book. But she has NO IDEA how I feel. She's confused! She's now in a position where her female curiosity takes over and she'll do anything in her power to know for sure. If you're giving mixed signals to a girl before she's attracted, then you're actually doing her a favor. She'll move on. But if you do it after there is initial attraction, then the girl will always chase you! (keep in mind that I approach each girl slightly differently because they're all different. I have to read them first, then adapt my approach to fit them, otherwise I'd crash and burn if I just did the same thing with every girl).
Well what I LOVE to hear a girl tell me is, "I just can't figure you out." (A.K.A. You're a challenge and a mystery and it's EXTREMELY attractive because you did it just right..) And they always tell me. They try all kinds of things to figure me out or to get me to tell them how I feel about them. They try to set me up: If they have a nice rack, they'll say something like, "My breasts are too small" just so I'll jump in and say, "No no! They're not!" then sit there complimenting her. Ofcourse I never do, cause that would be the reaction she WANTS, and I enjoy teasing women.
So anyways, whenever I hear a girl tell me that she can't figure me out, or that I'm different from other guys she's dated, I take that as a great sign of progress, because it ALWAYS leads to more and I'm not her typical, boring male.
If you're being c/f, then getting this response, you're probably doing things right. Just keep the c/f going. Last girl that told me I was hard to figure out:
Girl: Most guys are so predictable, but I honestly am having a really hard time trying to figure you out
Me: That's funny, cause you know, women can read body language 10x better than men.
Girl: [Nods her head]
Me: You should be able to read me like an open book [laugh]
LOL. That threw more fuel on the fire, especially since I was hinting at her very subtly using c/f that I knew exactly how she felt, but she had no idea how I felt. By the end of the night, this girl was all over me. I've never had it fail; just don't overdo it. It's really important to gauge the girl and give her just the right amount.
Cgraz