"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being called 'sir'

mackdaddy27

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went to get a mcdonalds sandwich and the lady at the window said , here you go , sir
my jaw dropped and just stared at her back as if to say , come back ehre ,what the fcck did you say
and then I was about to do a favre move from Supertrooper and jump trhough the windows to kick that persons ass ...if it was a joke

went to talk to a hb 6.5 as she was walking out, but as soon as opened with where is this store, she said " no sir, its not on this floor" shes not even an employee..

wtf ? should I start fcck buying gray hairs for men coverup and start talking my doctor about viagra..

I am only 27 , all my life I have never been called sir. I swear to good i m going to lay as many as i can before I turn 28
 

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
Hey, everyone I respect and know I call sir. Rollo, WescottII, Karma, they have much to teach me and they help me, and as such, In my eyes, they deserve the title of Sir(or in Wes's case Mentor). Sir is a subtle sign of respect. Well, that's how I use and see it anyway.
 

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Being sir is good. Uneducated-ghetto thug. Go huff some paint.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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They are looking at you as a customer, and as hired help, they are respecting you as a customer. I hope you aren't really this uptight.
 

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What are you moaning at?

"sir" is a sign of respect, meaning you're a perceived as a man of value.
 

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Yeah, it is just a common respectful term used for customers in many places, especially over the phone. It is becoming a bit outdated over here; a lot use the term 'boss' instead but if you go to an old fashioned barber or suit store, they will probably call you sir. It can be annoying if they overuse it like my barber e.g. "Does sir want his sideburns shorter?" "Is that ok for sir?" etc. but I can't see why it would bother anyone, they are just being respectful.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Is this where we are now? We're at a place where we question someone who's trying to be respectful? I'd think that 20-somethings would revel in being respected nowadays.
 

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spax said:
Being sir is good. Uneducated-ghetto thug. Go huff some paint.
lol +1

Do you even know what a Sir is?

Used as a form of polite address for a man: Don't forget your hat, sir.

Maybe up until this point in your life nobody refered to you as a sir because they viewed you less then a man and more like a boy.
 

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You guys are ALL on drugs.

At least 90% of the time, "Sir" is the most disrespectful bullcrap thing you can be called.

If a young girl calls you Sir, it pretty much indicates she in no way considers you a sexual being.

If an employee of a business calls you Sir, it means they see you as an obstacle between them and their paycheck. It means they don't even see you as a human being, and if they weren't being payed to do it, they wouldn't spit on you if you were on fire. They call you that because they HAVE to.

Ever see or hear two guys who pretty much want to kick each other's @ss, like on a radio talk show, or tv interview show? They will be barking at each other, and at least one of them will call the other, very indignantly...."Sir!"
And they'll say it with particular emphasis....."Sirrrrrrr!!!"

Watch....look and listen more closely, and you will find me to be right.

Yes, there are times when it's respectful, but that's pretty rare.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PrinceBeavis said:
You guys are ALL on drugs.

At least 90% of the time, "Sir" is the most disrespectful bullcrap thing you can be called.

If a young girl calls you Sir, it pretty much indicates she in no way considers you a sexual being.

If an employee of a business calls you Sir, it means they see you as an obstacle between them and their paycheck. It means they don't even see you as a human being, and if they weren't being payed to do it, they wouldn't spit on you if you were on fire. They call you that because they HAVE to.

Ever see or hear two guys who pretty much want to kick each other's @ss, like on a radio talk show, or tv interview show? They will be barking at each other, and at least one of them will call the other, very indignantly...."Sir!"
And they'll say it with particular emphasis....."Sirrrrrrr!!!"

Watch....look and listen more closely, and you will find me to be right.

Yes, there are times when it's respectful, but that's pretty rare.
Question for you Beavis.

Do you find taking such a negative view helps your situation? I'm not disagreeing with what you say but I don't see the point in looking for a negative in every situation.
 

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Nighthawk said:
You expect them to call you 'dude?'
A lot of the younger guys call you 'mate' or 'pal' round here. A lot of the women tend to say 'love' as in 'Alright love'.

To be honest, I don't mind either approach. Sometimes, if you are in your local bar or corner shop etc. it is nice to have a friendly tone rather than a formal one.

When I worked in service roles (supermarkets, fast food etc.), I tended to call younger guys 'mate', older guys 'sir' and women of all ages 'love'. I don't think I ever had any problems from anyone using any of those. I think it is a much of a muchness really.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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