Being called gay...wtf?

[Punisha]

Hey guys

I got this funny situation going on.Im a very open minded and touchy person and this includes guys too.I sometimes hug male friends and even cheek kiss when they dont have problems with that.
Now the ''weird'' thing is most of my classmates say that im gay.girls call me gay cause i basically rejected all of them except one and guys call me gay cause i dont say ''fvck you'' to my teachers and im a virgin and i dont get drunk and puke all night. This open minded attitude has helped me and i can see that im much funnier and ppl enjoy me being around them since i became like this.

But are there any problems in this situation?Some have told me that someday i might became gay(not even a problem to me)or that its ruining my reputation in HS.
Constructive replies appreciated

 

[Enryu]

GO to some sports clubs.
Oh and dont be the well behaved sheep.....
Dont be someone mommy wants you to be... be someone who you want to be... rebel a lil bit im sure you picture yourself as one of these other popular guys who seem(!) to come along with everybody.

Oh and dont think you can get along with everybody its an illusion.
You need to man up and face reality where not everyone will like you, but be the one who fights back if needed to.

Again go to some sports clubs, go to the gym etc.

You dont have to be the nice guy around everybody

 

[PhatE1vis]

It's only a problem if it bothers you, and the fact that you're posting about it leads me to belive that it does bother you. The biggest problem I can see it causing is with women - if they think you're gay, you won't get any play.

Are you gay? (no judgement here).

 

[mr.uk]

from what these people are saying to you, you are getting a big chance to show how attractive you are. when someone negs you and you dont care, it shows an air of confidence...males will respect you an girls will find you hot.

so when someone calls you gay laugh it off. you'll be amazed how people will react. for one, theyll think whoa he is secure with himself, and two, theyll stop joking about it cos theyll see you dont care.

 

[TheBaconator]

Cheek kissing your guy friends and rejecting all the women, hmm wonder why they would think of you as gay.

 

[KontrollerX]

No you're not becoming gay and you won't become gay.

People that follow societal norms like these clowns, do so because they are too scared to live life how they want to so they simply must try and break you down to be back in your cage and on their level of self imprisonment.

Don't buy into their brainwashing.

And even think of it this way...

The guys are drunken morons destroying their livers and the girls are fvcking ugly which is why you likely rejected them.

They have no room to judge.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You had better not be in choir or be part of any high school musical crap.

 

[MooseGod]

Eh, they're just jealous. Any guy who's good looking, likeable, and not a complete chump when it comes to women (or talks about sex/women in a vulgar way) is probably going to get called a fag.

Ever seen SLC Punk?

"Eddie got his ass beat several times for being gay, which he was not. Eddie wasn't a punk....no, Eddie was into women.

 

[DonGorgon]

This guy sounds gay to me...

LOL but women love gay men now i see women walking hand in haqnd with gay boyfriends and husbands all the time so he will be fine as fare as getting women goes...

 

[Punisha]

So many replies in such a short time...not used to it.
Anyway to answer some of the questions:
->no im not gay and im not bothered by it just wanted some extra opinions on the subject
->no im not in a choir (but i was invited to join theatre)
->yeah girls in my class are ugly even my mother said that once :crackup:
->yeah i laugh when they call me gay cause its funny to be called gay from guys who act all rebel and drink vodka during classes just to be that badass
->i once red somewhere that a psychologist or something said that most people would be bisexual if it wasent for social stigmas and i totally agree with him
->ive been in judo for 2 months,kickboxing 3 months,1 month in gym and 4 in football and started tennis about 3 weeks ago but for some reason i end up quitting cause i want to do sport in a free way not in a ''im into X''way.naa i dont get along with everyone and i dont picture myself as a popular guy but yeah i got some contacts.ive meet around 30 new persons in my first 2 months at HS :cheer: im also a little rebel and not so well behaved but when any of parents says no then its no.i mean they are the ones who feed me,taught me and brought me into this world,i must respect them

keep it coming

 

[KontrollerX]

"i once red somewhere that a psychologist or something said that most people would be bisexual if it wasent for social stigmas and i totally agree with him"

Pretty much.

We're all just a bunch of evolved monkeys that want to fvck.

Everything and anything lol.

 

[azanon]

"i once red somewhere that a psychologist or something said that most people would be bisexual if it wasent for social stigmas and i totally agree with him"

I'm not going to say whether I agree with him or not since I'd have no scientific proof to support it. What I can tell you though, is that if he's right, .... then I'm definitely not "most people".

 

[DonGorgon]

"i once red somewhere that a psychologist or something said that most people would be bisexual if it wasent for social stigmas and i totally agree with him"

Pretty much.

We're all just a bunch of evolved monkeys that want to fvck.

Everything and anything lol.

And many people are very bi sexual they just keep it very quiet..

 

[azanon]

Hey guys

I got this funny situation going on.Im a very open minded and touchy person and this includes guys too.I sometimes hug male friends and even cheek kiss when they dont have problems with that.
Now the ''weird'' thing is most of my classmates say that im gay.girls call me gay cause i basically rejected all of them except one and guys call me gay cause i dont say ''fvck you'' to my teachers and im a virgin and i dont get drunk and puke all night. This open minded attitude has helped me and i can see that im much funnier and ppl enjoy me being around them since i became like this.

But are there any problems in this situation?Some have told me that someday i might became gay(not even a problem to me)or that its ruining my reputation in HS.
Constructive replies appreciated

My advise is this: If you reside anywhere within 500 miles in any direction from AR, you need to stop kissing guys on the cheek. Within 500 miles, the only male you should kiss on the cheek is your dad/son, or "maybe" your brother. Beyond that distance, I'm not sure what's considered socially acceptable. If you can't follow that guideline, get used to being assumed gay.

Look, I'm all for being your own man..... but even the best of us should conform to a reasonable extent to the ways of the society that you live in. Being an extreme non-conformist (say, going with an extreme goth or emo look) just makes you come accross as insecure anyway, so it's self-defeating

 

[snowdog]

Hey guys

I got this funny situation going on.Im a very open minded and touchy person and this includes guys too.I sometimes hug male friends and even cheek kiss when they dont have problems with that.
Now the ''weird'' thing is most of my classmates say that im gay.girls call me gay cause i basically rejected all of them except one and guys call me gay cause i dont say ''fvck you'' to my teachers and im a virgin and i dont get drunk and puke all night. This open minded attitude has helped me and i can see that im much funnier and ppl enjoy me being around them since i became like this.

But are there any problems in this situation?Some have told me that someday i might became gay(not even a problem to me)or that its ruining my reputation in HS.
Constructive replies appreciated

Do all this and you won't be considered gay anymore:

Stop kissing guys for **** sake
Get drunk everynight till you start to vomit and wreck sh*t
Get into fights while you're drunk, even with your friends and beat people up