"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was out last night bowling with a group of guys..cool guys..not my closest friends.

and we were talking about how last week at bowling this woman that wasnt there was flirting with me a lot. And one of the guys said yea well its easy when your a pretty boy.

then an hour later I was discussing the game with another guy who called me a pretty boy as well.

what is a pretty boy..its not like I look like a gay male model or something.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I get it all the time Friv. Unfortunately, you just gotta deal with it. If the guys who called you that were really insecure, they'd be calling you gay.
 

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When a guy calls you a pretty boy it's means the are jealous and insecure. If a woman calls you that it means something entirely different.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewPicture&friendID=3800424&albumId=0


you can see a pic of me in a yellow shirt when I was skinny..that was before my long LTR..that was when the girls seemed to like me :)

and you can see me in the hospital bed with my new born..that was 16 months ago..but i'm pretty much that size right now..in that picture I was dead tired obviously.

I really think I look more like a rugged guy then a pretty boy...I guess it would be different if a woman said it.

those dudes should be happy they arent 5'7" like me...but then again if I had to choose ugly and tall or short and decent..ill be short
 

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I've been told I attract women because I have a "baby face". I usually just fire back, "No dumb****, it's because I know what I'm doing."

I think it's funny when men get honest about how other men look. Using the terms "baby face" or "pretty boy" could be likened to saying "he has a curvy ass". Don't worry about their thoughts on how you look. It won't (or shouldn't) have any effect on how well you attract women.
 

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thanks..I dont think im a pretty boy..women have always said attractive in a manly way :)

ill take Rugged.

"see Brett Favre in Wrangler commercials"
 

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frivolousz21 said:
what is a pretty boy..its not like I look like a gay male model or something.
I get this comment a lot too. Sometimes people say it out of jealousy or insecurity, but I make room for the fact that sometimes people are just being complimentary. It does have its negative connotations too because we men want to be "manly" not pretty. Others have advised me to never commit a violent crime, because I'd most likely be some man's "bitc*" in prison.

My looks has helped me, but it isn't even close to everything. Using and applying DJ principles to my life are far more important, I think.
 

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azanon said:
I get this comment a lot too. Sometimes people say it out of jealousy or insecurity, but I make room for the fact that sometimes people are just being complimentary. It does have its negative connotations too because we men want to be "manly" not pretty. Others have advised me to never commit a violent crime, because I'd most likely be some man's "bitc*" in prison.

My looks has helped me, but it isn't even close to everything. Using and applying DJ principles to my life are far more important, I think.
exactly....am I good looking? probably...if I wasnt atleast attractive I wouldnt have the success Ive had. But I honestly have no idea how I really look to women..I grew up and my best friends were all extremely attractive guys so I figured I was ugly until I got to this place.

but I owe a lot of to this place and the dj bible.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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frivolousz21 said:
exactly....am I good looking? probably...if I wasnt atleast attractive I wouldnt have the success Ive had. But I honestly have no idea how I really look to women..I grew up and my best friends were all extremely attractive guys so I figured I was ugly until I got to this place.

but I owe a lot of to this place and the dj bible.
Another thing about looks/being pretty is that individual women will still have their particular preferences. For example, if a woman goes for the beefy/muscular linebacker type body, I'm just not going to have a chance with her. Also, I think some women like that blue-collar/rough look that certain guys have too. I won't win those either.

So, you can't win them all no matter how you look. Even Matt Damien (sexy man of the year, something-or-other) is not going to be many women's preferred look.
 

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it sounds like they are jealous.
Another group of guys that believe that all it takes is looks.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Another group of guys that believe that all it takes is looks.
Yup, mislead individuals they are. This reminds me of laddertheory.com. The author there estimates approximate 20% in the woman's pie allocated to looks.* That's probably about right.

* And of that 20%, i'd say at least half of that is completely in your control (taking care of your body)
 

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I must say this..

right now my game is at an all time high becuase given the fact I have a court date in 2 days regarding custody of my child...I have no vested interest in being with women or any kind right now.

translation I dont give a ****....the last 2 weeks all the guys have been bragging to each other how I have been knocking it out of the park and funny as ****. last night I was rolling stuff out for about 3 min that had everyone about to piss themselves...

all because I dont give a **** right now.

I truely hope I can keep this no fear attitude when im dating again
 

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I don't think you're a "pretty boy" either. It might be because you have a nice smile or it's your attitude? Or maybe your friends are just so butt ugly compared to you. In my circle of friends I consider myself the "ugly friend". lol


Whatever the case you're a good looking guy, friv.

http://s217.photobucket.com/albums/cc68/cecceon/?action=view&current=headshot3.jpg

That's a "pretty boy" right there. I'd take rugged too, but my cheeks are too damn fat!! -_-

Edit: I always liked that scene between Vegeta and Trunks.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dude, WTF??

Are you like dressing up in pink silk shirts or something at the bowling alley? You don't look like a pretty-boy on that MySpace site.

Besides, if it pulls the chicks, what's the problem with it? :D
 

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squirrels said:
Dude, WTF??

Are you like dressing up in pink silk shirts or something at the bowling alley? You don't look like a pretty-boy on that MySpace site.

Besides, if it pulls the chicks, what's the problem with it? :D

actually this is what I wore last week where the one lady was all over me.

http://shop.nhl.com/product/index.j...4&parentPage=family&clickid=body_bestsell_img

I dont think a pretty boy dawns that.

and last night I had a hoodie on with nhl stuff on it...I only dress up if it matters.
 

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i think he was making fun of you but he did it like he was some weirdo.
anyhow, i went to the myspace thing and saw your pics of your little one, and he is such a cutie pah'tootie.
 

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It was a picture that was up on Friv's myspace album. It's the scene where Vegeta hug's Trunks for the first time. He says something like "You're my son and I've never held you even once." Then he knocks Trunks and Goten out and proceeds to blow himself up to kill Buu.

Great scene.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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