Being Called a Flirt...

[illmatic1005]

The other day my gf had this long conversation with me..basically, she said i was a hugeee flirt..i never thought i was tho...some ppl tel me i am others dont..by my GF certainly thinks so...

she said.."you are a flirt. Well, not really. But you joke around with everyone and are friends with everyone, girl or guy. Some girls may think you are flirting with them and start to gain interest in you and i dont like that."

i was like...theres no way i am a flirt i just like to socialize with everyone..and i talk to and joke around with girls the same way i do with guys..

she said..''You're a flirt. end of story''

Wtf, do i stop takin to girls because i 'make jokes' with a girl?
i dont get it..im not stoppin i just wanna kno why she said this out of the blue and the look in her eyes looked like she felt bad..

 

[Jitterbug]

She saw that other girls are getting attracted to you and she fears losing her power over you and you losing attraction for her. It's one of their usual tricks to get their power back by making their man feel guilty about being his natural self. "I'm a victim" example #2137.

 

[Yahooey]

A test is a test. Do not justify yourself. The message to give is "do you really want to be with the guy no other girl is interested in". I wouldn't use those words, but reframe with "You love knowing that you're with the guy that is turning all the girls on".

 

[SilverSonnet]

Dude, like the first reply stated, she knows your wanted by alot of women, and your a great catch (you are man ) she's losing power. Dude, you have the power now here. She cant leave you, 'cos first she finds you attractive, and 'cos she knows you wouldn't back glance and you'd find some other heavenly chick

Peace man
Ben

 

[DismantleRepair]

Dude, like the first reply stated, she knows your wanted by alot of women, and your a great catch (you are man ) she's losing power. Dude, you have the power now here. She cant leave you, 'cos first she finds you attractive, and 'cos she knows you wouldn't back glance and you'd find some other heavenly chick

Peace man
Ben

All true. This is what higher value feels like. Enjoy.

 

[Tomatoes]

I got this with one of my ex's before when we were going out. I think its a matter of perception and self confidence.

Your gf doesnt seem to have alot of self confidence.

That doesnt mean you should hop under the thumb