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Being angry the way to get girls?

Darth

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Question for you all-

So I'm normally pretty easygoing and "cool" with women, with some moderate success. But today I was really angry, but instead of hiding it to be polite, I just let it out and had a scowl on my face/looked pissed, etc.

This happened in the middle of a conversation with this girl. I had been asking her where she was from, talking about stuff in common, etc.

But after I got angry, she started smiling like crazy and acting really girly. My initial reaction was, "What are you, insane?" Weird.

So I talked to another girl, later on, in my normal way. Then, the next one, I was angry again, and didn't make any attempt to hide it. And she gave me this smile and those eyes you hardly ever see.

So next girl, did it again. Same damn thing.

My question is twofold. First, why does this work? Aren't you more of a man when you can control your feelings, and not walk around like the world sucks and everybody owes you?

Second, I can see there's something in it that they dig. But I can't get angry every day, at least I don't think I can. How can I replicate that in a cool way, not a loser/jerk way?

Thnks

PS Why would this even work in the first place? It's so completely stupid
 

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I have never done this before.

Based strictly on conjecture, I would say that if you were legitimately angry and displayed, you probably displayed a very high level of dominance and every other sexy trait a woman is interested in (note I said "sexy", not "attractive"). Remember our roots as people. Whether you believe in human evolution or that we were created by a god, humans have spent more of their existence living under circumstances where a man capable of becoming angry and doing something about it would be their best chance of survival.

Now that I think about it, I remember losing it pretty badly with one of my plates earlier this summer. I didn't hit her, but I was very angry, threw a plate on the ground, stained her new scarf, and was really upset. I grabbed my keys to leave and she started crying and grabbed a hold of me and tried to keep me from leaving. I don't remember why I got so mad or why I stayed, but I do remember she apologized profusely and after we had sex, said my outburst turned her on more than anything else I had ever done.

There's a power behind anger, and I think that's attractive to a lot of women. You already know how much they like power. Expressed anger is almost like liquid power, you can sense it, feel it, hear it, and be changed by it.

I'm not endorsing this sort of tactic as a pick up strategy by any means. But.

A woman needs to know that a man has a set of boundaries that are not to be crossed. A woman needs to know that if those boundaries are crossed, the man is not going to be happy. He will be angry. And really, I think women need to know this. If you can't get angry at them, a soft frail little thing, because they crossed an uncrossable line, how in the world will you be of any use to them if a bigger man does the same thing?
 

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They probably view you as troubled, and in need of rescuing. I had this happen before too. The girls aren't worth it though... They usually have low self-esteem and need someone to fix to feel better about themselves. It's their role of being the fixer upper. They specifically seek out troubled souls to save.

You probably also aren't afraid to speak your mind, and things like that. Usually when you're angry, it shows dominance.

Then you also have the crazies who seek after what they are, how they feel, or are familiar with.
 

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Girls like bold, confident behavior.
Usually when guys are angry, they will make bold statements and say things people would usually be afraid of saying in normal social situations. They break out of normal polite behavior.

Women like the emotion and adrenaline, they find it entertaining.
And they like the bold behavior.
The key is be sure you're not too angry.
Humorous angry is probably best. It's probably a distant relative of C&F.
 

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Great replies, thanks. This forum seems a lot better/more moral/intelligent than when I was here last. Happy Thanksgiving all.
 

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Yup, being angry can turn chicks on. Whether they act upon that is a whole 'nother story.

I think it's a very primitive reaction from women. They are faced with an angry, intimidating caveman, they better turn on the charm or he just might kill her. And then once they start being charming the cognitive dissonance kicks in and they think (subconsciously) "Hmm, I'm being really charming with this guy, I must like him!"
 

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Girl at work told me about a parking lot rage incident she witnessed one day. Said she never wouldve given this guy a second look but when some dude opened the door and hit his truck, seeing him flying off the handle got her hot so she walked over, calmed him down then got his number.

Anger as an aphrodisiac, who knew?
 

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the reason that girls are actually smiling and giving you those eyes is because by doing so you are not making them the center of attention. you are doing what you want and are not putting up a smiling face just because they are around you. We all know on this forum that by not putting up with girls sh!t they are attracted to us. You are angry and you show it, you are being a man and they will bow down in front of a man
 
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