"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being an Alpha while LTR gf is pregnant

AlphaGhost

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Wassup Folks,

I find it difficult to not be over nourishing of my girl since she is pregnant (currently 2 months).

Since she has gotten pregnant, sex has gone downnnnnn. She just says she isnt in the mood, or she is tired, or feels sick. Its hard seeing if I'm being **** tested or if she geniuenly is just not feeling good due to pregnancy.

I started to show less attention, but im feeling a bit guilty because she is pregnant and maybe I should be a bit more understanding that her body is going thru it, but then i think those are beta thoughts....

They say sex is suppose to return after 1st trimester...

I haven't sweated it much. especially recently I haven't mentioned it at all.

I have been going to the gym more and covertly showing I'm working out harder by flexing in the mirror when I know she is looking and she has commented on it. She tells me how sexy I look in the morning, and I can sense she is jealous for me.

To stay focused I've just been putting or atleast trying to focus my sexual energy more towards bettering myself.. but its making me feel like im resenting her a bit and I find myself tempted to hit up past girls...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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rhythmic

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Protecting your young isn't beta, it's the oldest alpha play in the book.

Never been in this situation... But that's your kid growing in there. Don't game her, don't stress her out or pressure her, just keep her happy and comfortable.

That said... After she gives birth, that's a different story.

Keep bettering yourself, and don't get all needy, just give her what she needs.
 

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AG,

I wouldn't worry to much about the 5hit test.
What if you fail, what's she going to do? :)

rhythmic is dead on ... take care of your family!

As the pregnancy starts to show and she starts getting self conscious and worried you might no longer find her attractive, she'll likely turn into a humping machine to protect her own family.

SH
 

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Thanks for the response guys. Really appreciated. Gonna be seeing alot of me around here hopefully!

Brb, she is throwing up bile...
 

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I am going to differ.

How much does it take to sexually satisfy a man? If she's not cool with intercourse, she could do other things you know...

A woman in love always is willing to make his man comfortable and content, baby or no baby.

My guess is, she doesn't like sex much normally anyway, now she has a free pass to use, and she's using it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dude just gave a dead give away this relationship with his pregnant ltr is not going to last, did anyone notice it in his original post?
 

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Fatal Jay said:
dude just gave a dead give away this relationship with his pregnant ltr is not going to last, did anyone notice it in his original post?
want to give some details?
 

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If YOU were sick enough to throw up, would you want sex? The hormones swing all over the place. Crying when watching a movie,etc. Just have to deal with it. When she's in a different hormone phase, her sex life will be different. Lucky my oldest son didn't come out with a head dimpled like a golf ball...
 

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The baby is in her uterus,

and even if you had a 9-inch rod, you wouldn't be able to stick that in through her vagina all the way to the uterus to harm the baby, even if the baby was large enough ...

I hope you're kidding.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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:))

Haha, interesting. Hormone mix-up :)

I still would want occasional HJ's/BJ's from my girl even if she was pregnant.
 

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bro it is what it is. you can pretty much throw game out the window when it comes to a pregnant woman. she's gonna go bat**** beucse that's what pregnant women do.

there were a few nights when my wife was pregnant i had to just go rent a hotel room lol i'm like you know what **** this lol. i know ti's not you but still i don't have to take this ****.

also once wom en have the baby it's like they somewaht returnt o normal and kinda see the bat**** behavior for what it is and try to make it up to some extent. my wife did this and my mom did this to me when she had my little sister when i was 17.

weight is something pregno women can contr0ol but hormones, you can forget it.

though on your end.. dont' use you not getting nay as an excuse to slack off. keep your ass in shape
 

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Hopefully when that baby arrives you will see how silly these thoughts you are having are.

P.S. why not post under your real username?
 

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backbreaker said:
bro it is what it is. you can pretty much throw game out the window when it comes to a pregnant woman. she's gonna go bat**** beucse that's what pregnant women do.

there were a few nights when my wife was pregnant i had to just go rent a hotel room lol i'm like you know what **** this lol. i know ti's not you but still i don't have to take this ****.

also once wom en have the baby it's like they somewaht returnt o normal and kinda see the bat**** behavior for what it is and try to make it up to some extent. my wife did this and my mom did this to me when she had my little sister when i was 17.

weight is something pregno women can contr0ol but hormones, you can forget it.

though on your end.. dont' use you not getting nay as an excuse to slack off. keep your ass in shape
Thanks for that lol...

And @ Slickster, I'm new to this board. I actually got lead here reading the solvemygirlproblem.com blog which lead me to Rollos blog which lead me here lol.

@ FatalJay
Before the pregnancy we ****ed like 2 times a day, morning sex was part of my morning routine. I'm just used to having sex more than thism and its my first time dealing with a preg lady so I think that was just my own frustrations showing. If she continues this after the child is born, then I can say I should worry...

I'm not being mr.super beta with her, I'm just making sure my lady is comfortable while she is carrying my child. Meaning I'm willing to go get food for her, and take care of things around the house because she is always tired or sick lately and she is getting a cold now...

I'm not lying to myself either to think things out of reality though, I still have my eyes open :up:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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After the baby is born, you'll be having alot of sleepless nights.. you'll tell her "if I wasn't so tired I'd bang the hell out of you." she'll say "iknow"....married version of "oral sex" :)
 

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you guys make me never want to get a chick pregnant or marry her
 

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rhythmic said:
Protecting your young isn't beta, it's the oldest alpha play in the book.
Not to come off sounding all anal, but it's not alpha either.

It's been understood for quite some time at least in the manosphere that the best father's /husbands are 3 parts alpha to 1 part beta traits. The beta part is useful in actually keeping the guy around. The other 3 parts is useful in keeping her around.

In fact the OP's title for this thread is literally impossible unless he has a small portion of betadom to go with it.
 

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woman lose the desire of having sex when she not feel that she is sexy , and that is why a lot of pregnant women refuse to have sex , may be that is why she told you that you look sexy , she wanted to hear you telling her that too .
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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