She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Though normally I would agree for the type of scam you posted, but the bait on the hook to draw this fish in was the notion of 'love' - And the potential to date some chick online, from another country and sending her money, which is 100% Captain save a Ho from the off-set.amoka said:This is a very sad story to her; however, it has nothing to do with being AFC. This is a typical example of pure ignorance and stupidity. Many stupidity people fall for this Nigeria crap. Few years ago a billionaire from Mexico fell into a Nigerian crap like this. He sent plenty of money with a hope that the fraudsters are building an International Airport in Nigeria in HIS name? What a fool? He spent closed to a million dollar before coming to his senses and decided to fly to Nigeria to see "the project". That was when he realized it was all a scam.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
amoka said:Jonwon, I agree with you on some of your reasonings. But the ultimate reason why Mr. Phillip Hunt is a dead man was not because he was an AFC. He was merely stupid and ignorant, I would say. He completely failed to smell this miles away. I am sure that if Mr. Hunt had met a local who claimed to be rich and sick and wish for him to give her money for an exchange of love, he would have thought better and would not have been dead. You'd notice the note Mr. Hunt left was to the effect of the amount of money he owed and not the woman he is expecting. "I have insurmountable debts and will take my own life."
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.