CrunchyNut
Don Juan
I have a little problem that relates to every aspect of my life. I can never win anything outright.
I am good at most things. Sports (I play 4 sports regularly at university), academia (currently averaging a high end 2:1/ low end 1st at university), I am popular, get involved (a member of multiple committees, have founded a university society), and am not bad looking or bad with women.
However, I can never win properly, ruthlessly. In a game of tennis I can be 4 games to 0 up and lose the set 6-4. I will be cruising, and as soon as I start to win I suddenly drop off and try ridiculous shots when a simple one will do. I dont bottle it-if anything I become overconfident.
The tennis is just an example, an easy way to get your heads round the problem. I am worried that I will suddenly drop off in my degree-think I am already there and end up with a far worse one than I should have.
It shows with girls too-I can get close, get them sexually interested and then decide "the hard part is done" and lose them forever.
It is something I do in every aspect of life, and have done for as long as I can remember. Like I said, it is not that I bottle it, nor is it that I am afraid of winning. I simply decide that I am already there when I am not.
How can I change? It is beginning to bug me!
I am good at most things. Sports (I play 4 sports regularly at university), academia (currently averaging a high end 2:1/ low end 1st at university), I am popular, get involved (a member of multiple committees, have founded a university society), and am not bad looking or bad with women.
However, I can never win properly, ruthlessly. In a game of tennis I can be 4 games to 0 up and lose the set 6-4. I will be cruising, and as soon as I start to win I suddenly drop off and try ridiculous shots when a simple one will do. I dont bottle it-if anything I become overconfident.
The tennis is just an example, an easy way to get your heads round the problem. I am worried that I will suddenly drop off in my degree-think I am already there and end up with a far worse one than I should have.
It shows with girls too-I can get close, get them sexually interested and then decide "the hard part is done" and lose them forever.
It is something I do in every aspect of life, and have done for as long as I can remember. Like I said, it is not that I bottle it, nor is it that I am afraid of winning. I simply decide that I am already there when I am not.
How can I change? It is beginning to bug me!