"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Metro3pilot

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with everything that's happened in your life .....

would you go back to being a 21 year old again ... if you could ?

I would if I knew then what I know know and still had the perks that maturity

gets you like ..better income and the such
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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heres the problem. the thing thats great about getting older is all the lessons you learn. the thing that sucks is that time to use those lessons is getting shorter and shorter.

so id love to go back in time knowing what i know now.

id like to go back to about 17. highschool is a f*cked up place no matter how much you have learned in life, so i'll skip that. but i'd have loved to have the insights i have now when i was in university.

that said, i don't believe in looking back in life - we are but ashes and dust as the romans said - so fight the good fight and die with a smile on your face.
 

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I'm currently taking a class on Behavioral Health and Aging. My professor is pushing 80 and is a dual PhD brilliant man. I'm his favorite student and usually score perfectly on his 6-8 page essay exams. He chose to use the book "Aging Well" by George E. Vaillant, M.D. The book is a great read and I highly recommend it to everyone, regardless of age. It's astounding the way how well you develop emotionally from your birth affects every phase of your life from there on out. If you don't develop emotionally correctly in each phase it can seriously screw you up. Definitely get the book...it's a must read.
 

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If you don't develop emotionally correctly in each phase it can seriously screw you up
that must be my problem ! ! !:cry: nah I'm happy where I'm at and can't complain about much except for the fact I can call a 30 year old a kid now ...and 19 and 20 year old women don't want me ...and I ache longer and more than I used too, hangovers last a couple days anymore ..can't see or hear as well, I wanna be 25 again .... besides that man I'm happy
 

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Metro3pilot said:
that must be my problem ! ! !:cry: nah I'm happy where I'm at and can't complain about much except for the fact I can call a 30 year old a kid now ...and 19 and 20 year old women don't want me ...and I ache longer and more than I used too, hangovers last a couple days anymore ..can't see or hear as well, I wanna be 25 again .... besides that man I'm happy
lol...wait until you start making those noises you used to laugh at your parents for making when they got up out of the easy chair...hehe. You're only as old as you feel. My 7 year old's grammy is in her 70's and she only looks like she's in her 50's. She is full of energy, in great shape, is very active and happy. I adore her. My professor is a bit older than she is and he does look his age...but he is a college professor at two different colleges and is incredibly happy and full of energy. The key to living a long and full life is to make a conscious choice to be happy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Metro3pilot said:
with everything that's happened in your life .....

would you go back to being a 21 year old again ... if you could ?

I would if I knew then what I know know and still had the perks that maturity

gets you like ..better income and the such

If I could be 21 again and add the years to my life... yes.

If I had to be the 21 year old I was and live it all over again... no.
 

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Hell yea, even though I thought I had it all figured out, I was CLUELESS back then. If I had a 35 yr olds knowledge and experience at 21 I could conquer the world!
 

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Metro3pilot said:
that must be my problem ! ! !:cry: nah I'm happy where I'm at and can't complain about much except for the fact I can call a 30 year old a kid now ...and 19 and 20 year old women don't want me ...and I ache longer and more than I used too, hangovers last a couple days anymore ..can't see or hear as well, I wanna be 25 again .... besides that man I'm happy
Uh, where I hang most 19 and 20 year olds want guys your age. I read these posts and I realize how there is nothing worse than being a 30-something male stuck in America. A nightmare placed on another nightmare :nervous:. This is almost as bad as the loser FSU marriage forums where 45 year old American guys question if they can handle a 20 year old Ukrainian wife. Entire threads based on a guy's insecurity over his age. Shows you how f***** America has become these days. I have never read a Turkish or Italian guy wonder such things. It is usually, "I think she will treat me well enough." American guy responds, "You are lucky, but my Oksana is 19 and it will never work. She will leave me in a few years. I could never make her complete." I swear, just go read those loser forums.
 

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Entire threads based on a guy's insecurity over his age. Shows you how f***** America has become these days.
Hey Sparky ...you reading a different thread then I am ...because I'm pretty sure everyone in the thread said they would not go back unless they could with the knowledge they have now, otherwise NO ....


I don't call that insecurity over one's age ... I call that being happy where you are at

:rockon:
 

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I so would.

sparky0000, you obviously have not hit your thirties. Live a little and then come back to this forum.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Wyldfire said:
My professor is pushing 80 and is a dual PhD brilliant man. .
AND

Wyldfire said:
I'm his favorite student and usually score perfectly on his 6-8 page essay exams.
So...if you were not his favorite student and if you were scoring average on his 6-8 page essay exams...would you still considering him a "brilliant man"?

;)


In a more serious note...what the second quote adds to this thread?


Anyway, I personally don't want to be twenty one again.
 
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