jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Today I witnessed a scene at my new job. (I've been here for three months now)
You should know that in Italy, it's very common for a couple to have their own company.
So this was him, the boss, and her, his secretary/mankeeper.
That said, the scene I witnessed involved him having an exam to take via video conference in the morning, so from his office, but he was unprepared and got angry, guess with who?
Not at himself for the organization, but at his wife, because she couldn't or didn't find a way to give him advice, since her camera prevented him from moving.
The man just blamed her for something that wasn't her bad.. this shows failure to take responsibility (projection).
But, what did she do?
Not only did she "let off steam" by telling her colleagues, telling her everything that had happened, and how he had scolded her for it, and how she had acknowledged his lack of responsibility for not being prepared, but after two or three hours she was back at his place, taking orders from him.
So her outburst, her reaction, wasn't a moment to value himself and understand that this person is a sociopathic narcissist. On the contrary, she was even more concerned with what she could do to help him, rather than getting out of the situation.
It helped me understand that it doesn't matter how much women are abused (in this case, verbal abuse), as long as there's some compromise for them, financially/status-wise.
In this case, it's clearly understandable how the woman realized this man wasn't responsible, but decided to stay anyway for the benefits she gets.
I wonder what your experiences have been, like the one I'm telling you about?
You should know that in Italy, it's very common for a couple to have their own company.
So this was him, the boss, and her, his secretary/mankeeper.
That said, the scene I witnessed involved him having an exam to take via video conference in the morning, so from his office, but he was unprepared and got angry, guess with who?
Not at himself for the organization, but at his wife, because she couldn't or didn't find a way to give him advice, since her camera prevented him from moving.
The man just blamed her for something that wasn't her bad.. this shows failure to take responsibility (projection).
But, what did she do?
Not only did she "let off steam" by telling her colleagues, telling her everything that had happened, and how he had scolded her for it, and how she had acknowledged his lack of responsibility for not being prepared, but after two or three hours she was back at his place, taking orders from him.
So her outburst, her reaction, wasn't a moment to value himself and understand that this person is a sociopathic narcissist. On the contrary, she was even more concerned with what she could do to help him, rather than getting out of the situation.
It helped me understand that it doesn't matter how much women are abused (in this case, verbal abuse), as long as there's some compromise for them, financially/status-wise.
In this case, it's clearly understandable how the woman realized this man wasn't responsible, but decided to stay anyway for the benefits she gets.
I wonder what your experiences have been, like the one I'm telling you about?