Hey guys, so I'm a sophomore in high school. I'm tall, good looking, fit, and funny. I've never had a girl friend, so recently (hormones) I've been trying to find ways to get girls. I've found in my experience and what I've read, girls like bad boys/jerks, especially in high school. So, I don't mind being a ****, but I want to know how to be the kind of jerk girls go for. I know I can't just be a complete **** head, so I need to know what to do to become the jerk girls love. And I know this may be "morally wrong", but hey I've got a lot of testosterone haha. So any advice/tips/guides would be appreciated, thanks.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Being a jerk
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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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The jerk thing is very hard to fake unless you really are a natural jerk. Women can tell the difference between a real natural jerk and a nice guy trying to be one.
But honestly, if your description is accurate, you don't need jerk game. Tall gives you a HUGE advantage. Fit, good looking, and funny are also big bonuses.
I would just work on your confidence. Then you should own the place.
But honestly, if your description is accurate, you don't need jerk game. Tall gives you a HUGE advantage. Fit, good looking, and funny are also big bonuses.
I would just work on your confidence. Then you should own the place.
N_SEAL44
Don Juan
I've found the best way to be a jerk is to just not care. As long as you don't have any cares about the repercussions of your actions, then you'll become that bad boy that people like to be around. This isn't something you can just do overnight though, you need LOTS of confidence to pull this off right. However I've found more important then not caring, is PRETENDING to not care. You want people to perceive you as not caring, but in reality everything you do is thoroughly thought out. You want people to say "wow that kid gets everything he wants without any effort", once people start to think you have the "cheat codes to life", you can manipulate them to get want you want. Then the school is yours.
Social status is probably the most important thing to have in high school. You don't need to be the most popular kid in school, or a football player, or anything, but it's important to have a group of friends that you're around often as a type of social proof. This goes along with your confidence, which is important, too. Other than that, the most important thing I think is to not be boring. Be impulsive and say/do random stuff to girls - obviously this takes some practice, but there's nothing worse than a guy who's boring and talks about the same stuff all the time. Make sure you're touching too.
Basically, you don't have to be a jerk. You just have to not be boring.
Basically, you don't have to be a jerk. You just have to not be boring.
Analyzeit
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The posts in this thread have been awesome.
The being a jerk thing is more of an expression then actually being a jerk.
What "being a jerk" really is. Is the attitude someone has when they don't care.
When you don't care "being a jerk" just comes naturally.
Mikes right in a way. but from not caring comes confidence, learning not to care will become the biggest confidence boost.
Im sure you've read the stories on this site that talks about a guy asking 20 girls out that come into this shop and 1 says yes. The guy didnt feel rejected at all in fact he was happy with the outcome. Would you be able to do this? I sure couldn't haha, but its a story that has a lot of meaning, Moral of the story.
When you don't care you get *****
The being a jerk thing is more of an expression then actually being a jerk.
What "being a jerk" really is. Is the attitude someone has when they don't care.
When you don't care "being a jerk" just comes naturally.
Mikes right in a way. but from not caring comes confidence, learning not to care will become the biggest confidence boost.
Im sure you've read the stories on this site that talks about a guy asking 20 girls out that come into this shop and 1 says yes. The guy didnt feel rejected at all in fact he was happy with the outcome. Would you be able to do this? I sure couldn't haha, but its a story that has a lot of meaning, Moral of the story.
When you don't care you get *****
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I wouldn't say it's so much as being a sterotypical 'jerk,' but rather a guy who can pull off being cool, suave, and confident without emotionally caring or being full of himself. Trust me I've lost out on some ***** because of being the 'nice guy' so I can totally relate to the post above me.