Being a Father for the past 5 years... I think I have forgotten how to be...

[TheLadiesMan]

....anything else.

Women come and go in my life, only because all I want to do now, is be a good Dad.
As many women that have crossed my path in the last few years, double that, is the amount of women that I, sometimes just simply overlook. Last Saturday, I went out with 2 fine Polynesian women at a club. They were best friends, one married, one single. (and what's with all the married women in my life lately?) I was so tired, I just got to the point. I said "Lets take this back to my place. I have a bottle of wine, and I'm enough for both of you." I dunno....????? We had a good time, danced, drank, joked, etc. but I just wanted to go home, and if they wanted to come too, than it is what it is...
Part of me wanted to try the two women thang, just to see if I could still hold up, and the other part, just wanted to spend time reading, or doing something with my son.
You can guess how that night ended... I didn't burn that bridge now. ...I mean, I'm a father, not a stupid father.

I dunno how to balance being a father, and being TheLadiesMan. I'm sure many Dads will agree, that being a father, requires a sh*t load of fvcking work around the fvcking clock. Even when I don't have him.

Help.

I want the women who touch me, make eye contact with me, tease me, flirt with me, to actually do something. I want them to.... sometimes it seems that I try so hard, but not really.

 

[Ballie]

Hey boet (dude), I feel for you and empty words will not ease your pain. I am divorced for two years and don't even see my kids any more. My son is grown up and is working. My daughter is a selfish teenager who has been mindfvcked by my ex - but I still text her even if she doesn't reply.

At least you are still seeing your kid - make the most of your time together and make sure he want's to see you.

As for women, relax and have fun - you don't need that additional hassel in your life but it's better than being alone.

 

[vitor]

Balance is the key to life my friend, everything is good in moderation. Surely you do not spend 24/7 with your son and one or two weekend nights a month is not going to kill the great bond.

 

[Warrior74]

Excuses plain and simple. Stop making them.

I am the father of a 7 year old cute little girl who is starting to like boys (but won't admit it to me, lol) try that on for size.

I work two jobs and working on a business that has stalled in this economy and I make no excuses about women in my life. I keep my love live seperate from my work life, my work life seperate from my business and all of it seperate from my child. When I'm with her I'm with her, when I'm working I'm working. Compartmentalize and stop making excuses.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

Excuses plain and simple. Stop making them.

I am the father of a 7 year old cute little girl who is starting to like boys (but won't admit it to me, lol) try that on for size.

I work two jobs and working on a business that has stalled in this economy and I make no excuses about women in my life. I keep my love live seperate from my work life, my work life seperate from my business and all of it seperate from my child. When I'm with her I'm with her, when I'm working I'm working. Compartmentalize and stop making excuses.

Not making excuses, just being honest. *shrugs*
I think you're trying to help, but you coming at me all wrong. Almost patronizing, and a tad bit condescending.

Since I am a Don aka theLadiesMan, I can give you this advise...

First, get the papers.
Once you have the papers, you'll have the power.
...after that, everything else will fall into place.